Husband out drinking whilst baby is sick

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AIBU? My husband went out for a drink with a friend last night, they just went to a pub, nothing special, about 10 min taxi ride away. He doesn’t go out for a drink often. My baby was having some sort of allergic reaction at home with me, really upset (in discomfort), spewing and hives. It was due to food allergies, reactions do not happen often but when they do, I have what I need to deal with it. I had to give the meds, put the cream on, change the bedsheets 🤮🤮and try get to sleep.

My question is AIBU expecting my husband to come home from the pub? I only ask as I know if I was out and he told me what was happening with our baby, I would come straight home. Is it just a ‘mum’ thing to want to comfort their sick child? He rocked up at 1am with no phone or wallet and painted the toilet with sick.

No I wouldn't expect him to come home unless it was a seriously ill situation. I'd be annoyed with the way the night went but to be honest no one plans to get sick, chances are he overdid it because he doesn't go out often, it would be worse if he had a high tolerance due to hanging around the pub every night. But i would expect him to be back on duty this morn and no complaining!

Is it just a ‘mum’ thing to want to comfort their sick child?

In the situation you describe, I'd be fine with my husband looking after DD without me needing to come back. It doesn't sound like something that needed two people.

He rocked up at 1am with no phone or wallet and painted the toilet with sick.

That would seriously fuck me off. He's got so drunk he's lost his phone and wallet?

I'd be fuming, he should DEFINITELY have come home. How on earth could he continue to go out and have fun knowing his baby is suffering and poorly? If anything he may be running away from home-life. My ex boyfriend used to stay out drinking 3-4 times a week towards the end of our relationship, turns out he was unhappy and didn't want to be at home so I left him.
In my opinion any man who goes out drinking and comes home without his belongings and throws up is a complete liability; especially when you have a baby. You will just find yourself looking after him and worrying when he's gone because he clearly cannot set boundaries or function when he's had a drink.
I don't want to label it alcoholism but if he is doing this a few times a week, lying to you about when he is coming home, not replying to texts or saying 'just one more' I would seriously reconsider the relationship. I exclusively do not date men who drink or typical 'lads' because of this behaviour I've experienced before and how terribly it affected me.
If this is a one off, focus less on the drinking and more on the fact he didn't come home.
Either way he's in the wrong

I wouldnt mind him going out for a couple of drinks but would expect him to come back in a reasonable state ready to take over in the morning. Not to come back really drunk.
To be honest even without DC being ill i wouldn’t be impressed at a man doing that beyond about 22ish