AIBU to go with my middle sister to Germany for a concert?

[Evieanne]

she’s over 16
I earn my own income
our parents help with drop ups and pick ups
we don’t pay rent to our parents (cultural reason - our parents don’t believe in taking money off daughters)

so I have enough where I can take her to visit a concert in germany
we have to ask permission to go places
WIBU to consider us?

I can’t imagine why you’d not do this, if you wanted to.

How old are you are if adult explain why you parental permission?

If they say no what would I do?

I’m 21, she’s 17

Because our cultural background is different what dad says calls the shots

You absolutely should be able to go, yes, of course. And you shouldn’t need to ask for permission. But as you say, your culture has different rules/norms so it’s very difficult for us to answer. You should be able to go. But it may cause problems with your family depending on how strict they are and it’s up to you if it’s worth fighting for more freedom.

Though bare in mind more freedom could also include paying bills/rent etc.

Yes I think this does raise more issues long term. Are you happy with having to ask for permission to do perfectly normal everyday things?
Do you want take the plunge, get your own place and run your own life?

What objections might your DF raise? It sounds like a great thing to do.

No harm in asking.

What are the questions he'll ask in return and what are the things he'll be worried about? It might help to have a plan.

Do a shorter day trip first to show them you can travel together responsibly.

As she’s 17 I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have to ask for permission. If it were just you going then it would be a different story.

It doesn’t hurt to ask but two girls 21 and 17 travelling alone may be a lot for your dad to agree to if culturally you need to ask permission. Good luck!

If she's under 18 and lives at home then it's up to your parents. Whether it's unreasonable or not doesn't matter - ask them.

I couldn’t imagine asking my father for permission to do something as ordinary as go to a concert aged 21. Don’t you want to move out and live independently, making your own decisions?