Awfull neighbour

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Hey everyone so I'm new too this posting and haven't quite got your lingo yet so I'll just write like I do... So I've lived in my house for 3 years now with my 4 year-old son we love it here was a fresh start after an awfull relationship resulting with me having complex PTSD and sever anxiety anyway one of my neighbours is lovely has 3 kids we go out together have daily coffee and chats couldn't fault her she's a great neighbour and became a really good friend my neighbour the other side however is a different story. She has 2 kids one under 10 and other early teens there house smells so bad like of actual poo and wee and cigarettes it's so so bad it wouldn't be an issue as it's not my house but our back doors and windows lead out onto eachother like we can see into eachothers houses there's no escaping it and she leaves her door and window open all day so the smell just stays it's never gone my son actually gagged this morning when I opened the door and asked what's that smell... I've had poo covered tissue thrown down into my side of the fence so it's been on my back door step she leaves buckets of poo and wee and sick out her back door I'm not even joking I do not understand it and I don't know what to do?!!! So every day she is screaming at these children and I'm not just saying like how mum's shout at there kids like it goes through me she roars and screamed at these poor kids saying how she wants to die and just stuff you do not say Infront of your kids let alone screaming it for everyone to hear it's not an occasional thing it's actually daily every morning f-ing and blinding my son has started to tell me he hates me and to f off after hearing the under 10 screaming that at his mum over and over again but to be honest I want to scream that at her too! She awfull and I have already reported her for noise but I think there's more too it the way she is and the things she says to her under 10 are thing that really shouldn't be said I don't know what to do but I know this is the best place for advice please someone tell me how to deal with this I'm 25 she's in her mind 30s it's affecting me mentally I feel I cannot take my son out the back due to the smell and the foul language that is constantly used by them
Thank you for letting me rant Xx

Have you considered reporting her to social services? Do the children go to school? You could get in touch with their school to say you are concerned about them.

Report to social services

Environmental health, if she’s actually tipping buckets of human waste in the garden. They’ll respond very quickly, it’s a huge public health hazard.

And then social services. She clearly isn’t very well at all, and the DC must be desperate, for them all to be toiletting in buckets.

That was my next move I thought I'd come on here now this morning after hearing it I recorded her I just wanted to make sure that was the right step to take I want it to be as anonymous as possible as our kids are all in the same school and she really is quite nasty thank you for responding back to me x

Yes, you need to contact SS, the school and environmental health. It's not fair on the kids living like that

She said it's her youngest as he has autism and it's what he does but I'm really not sure its how she should deal with it thank you for your advice x

Try social services or safeguarding lead if you know where the kids go to school.

I work in a school and we would take something like that seriously.

Could be she has mental health issues and is known to services already so you are adding to the bigger picture by telling them.

If she's screaming at the kids and yelling she wants to die you can report a concern for welfare to police who will attend especially as minors are there. That would help get other services involved.

You can tell your son some people are not nice and use nasty words but you won't allow that from him and he needs to know it's wrong.

Thank you so much this has really really helped social have been involved already but they signed her off she does speak to me and she has got mental health to but she's contastly telling them she's going to die soon and she's bleeding out ect ect she told my other neighbour she drinks to sleep she's picked the youngest up drunk before I'm not sure how the school didn't notice but again they might have been the ones to involve social I'll give the school a call now thank you x

If you have a communal Housing Officer report this to them immediately, this is as you say a very serious situation as regards child safeguarding and immediate intervention is required. Social Services can be very slow to react so as PP have said inform the police. Personally I email the police if not a 999 situation so there's a paper trail, if worried about anonymity set up an alternative email account but tbh they won't divulge the source of the complaint/concern being raised.

Pleased that you are taking action. There is something seriously wrong there, poor kids and it must be terrible for you being next door.

All behaviour is communication, as they say, and clearly this is a mother out of her depth and desperate for help.

That doesn't mean you turn a blind eye/ear/nose and let her get on with it, it means you report it compassionately to whomever needs to know - council, social services, police.

After 5 years living next to someone who is a textbook definition of antisocial personality disorder, I have come to the conclusion that this very British 'tolerance' thing of never complain is doing noone any favours!!

For one thing, good people shouldn't have to suffer the antisocial antics of others, it is a serious drain on your life.

Secondly, these people won't get the support they need if noone speaks up.

Welfare is always at the heart of any complaint and you are not a bad person for caring enough to say something.

(little update) Thank you all for your responses I'm glad that I came on here and spoke about it before just jumping to social I have spoken to the school and have voiced my concerns I've been called in just so they can write it down and get it documented next week then they will deal with it from there i also saw the older son yesterday he was locked out the house for a good 40 mins whilst the mum was at the "club" with her BF. he said she actually told him to be home on time too in the morning. I got him a drink it was 28° yesterday asked if he wanted a snack my little one invited him over so he sat in the garden and I just said if he ever needs anything or just to get away for an hour my doors open I get it. He was very grateful and opened up about quite abit and the way she overreacts sometimes we just need a friendly face but I woke up this morning feeling alot better knowing some kind of action will be taken to keep them boys happy and feel safe thank you all so so much for the advice and support they all deserve better xx

Report to ss, but don't expect anything to be done.