Is my DH an arse?

[boringlady]

So we went for a family day out lately to an event. Lots of other ppl there too. To see a show. At the end we all walked out and right behind us there was a young lad about 16 or 17 with his dad, the young lad had clearly (visibly) some sort of learning disabilities and he was clearly excited telling us how much he enjoyed the show. My hubby just ignored him but I engages and said yea it was great and glad u had fun. Why did my hubby just ignore him. Or am I being too OTT

Also our young son is autistic and delayed speech. He does talk but delayed for his age.. I follow a few ppl on social media who have autism, one is a young lad of 17 and he was very late talking but has now caught up. He does lots of videos and snd just now I saw an interesting one so tagged my hubby to watch. Hubby watched and afterwards I asked him what he thought as that could maybe one day be our son. He just said it was ok and carried on watching tv

So my question is, why is my hubby so closed off and detached! Or am I too OTT?

Me either. It's nothing to do with learning disabilities. I don't want to engage with strangers when I'm out. I am polite about it though, I don't ignore people but I do make it clear that I prefer to be left alone.

However, OP says he's a rubbish husband so there are definitely more issues than ignoring a stranger.

Even a teen with obvious learning disabilities? You wouldn’t just say something like ‘yes it was good wasn’t it’? You can then leave, but engaging with them could make a big difference.

I think it shows what kind of person he is - an arse.

Not wanting to speak to a stranger isn't rude. It's not like he was ignoring someone in distress or pain.

I think that men are often more reluctant to speak to kids that they don't know because there is suspicion about them having an agenda like paedophilia for doing so. I know that age 16 doesn't make them a pedo and that men make great support workers - I'm talking about average men off the street without experience.

Plus there might have been an element of denial that this could be your son in a few years. Some people don't really think that far into the future and would see worrying about the future as wasted energy because you can't change things.

Snap!