is there anywhere i can raise this to try and make a change in favour of the resident parent?

[hadbeoufh]

I know nothing will change overnight, or even by the time it could benefit me. But I am appalled at how my child’s father is allowed to put me in financial difficulty.

He never sees his child and DC (2) will go to nursery in a couple of months. The cost is 1400 a month. I’ve asked ex to pay his share and he said he’s paying his maintenance and that’s all he needs to do. His maintenance is 450 a month. A fucking car seat alone is 300 ish!

Why is this allowed to happen? As I say, I want to help make a change, but how? Write to MPs? Anyone have any ideas? I won’t go begging to him so as I say it probably will never benefit me but what an absolute abuse of power these men have over women. And yes, it’s largely women who pick up everything when a man feels it’s ok to ‘opt out’ of parenting the child they said they wanted.

Switch to true 50/50 so he pays half the nursery cost or looks after the child on his week?

He doesn't have the kid at all

I believe if the maintenance has been set by cps or is the amount that the calculator they use comes up with then they don't legally have to pay any extra doesn't mean its morally right and it's infuriating. My ex refused to pay any nursery fees at all and paid an abysmal £48 a week as he had alot of money in savings which weren't taken into account only income which allowed him to salary sacrifice ALOT more of his wage to his pension pot meaning he paid less. I found out he had zero clothes for her and for the first two years he did not even have a bed for her she slept in his (this man is well off just a spiteful man and narcissistic tosser) he made sure he had his 52 days a year by picking her up and dumping her at his mums so he didn't go into the next *pay bracket for cms he was well into his 30s when he became a dad I was 21 I left him due to controlling behavior and he took it out on me by punishing our child, it's disgusting that the non resident parent can get away with it and it's usually the bastards that can afford to give their children good lives that have accountants to help them with the legal loopholes. I'm sorry not much help op but your not on your own unfortunately