Is it bad to be a workaholic?

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I can feel myself becoming addicted to work. I'm meant to have tomorrow off and I can feel myself making excuses to my team why I need to log on. I know that's not good for them as they need to see their manager take time off. So then I start thinking how I can do work in secret.

That's proper addiction thinking?

But is that bad? I'm ambitious, my family rely on me and my income, I find work easier than anything else.

DH says I do spend too much time on my laptop but he also wants to give up work entirely and become a house husband so 🤷

Any thoughts? Do I need to wean myself off work or fuck it... just keep going?

Are you working lots because you have to to keep up with a heavy workload or because you want to?

I always think it’s good to have boudaries between work and home and to have an active home life. Anything could happen to take work away at any point- illness, redundancy etc. It’s good not to pin everything on any one aspect of your life I think. Isn’t there anything else you’re equally enthusiastic about that you could use your time off for?

I’m someone who would have been described as a workaholic. Dedicated a lot of myself (mentally and time) to work. Was v successful and earned a lot of money. Enjoyed the mental challenge, the drama, the feeling needed, the level of influence.

2 years ago and at my prime, I quit. Decided I’d had enough and wanted to focus on me and my family. Something I’ve learned about myself is I was v rarely present or mindful and that has impacted my relationships with lots of people . Those people who you think you are so close to at work and those projects that only you can do (and I know you’re already internally thinking but I am the only person) - they are meaningless and you are replaceable just like everyone else is.

So I’m financially secure but do I wish I’d prioritised differently with the benefit of hindsight - absolutely. It’s also been a journey of realising how much of my identity was wrapped up in my work achievements. I am known as a humble person but if I’m honest with myself I had a lot of internal ego in my ambition.

In the moment people it’s very hard to step out of those roles, but many people I know reflect on things quite different Ely as they get older.

*as they

Also don’t under-estimate how much you might resent a SAHP. I enjoyed providing for my family but then became annoyed of the dynamic if I’m honest.