...to be pissed off at DH having his mates round?

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DD is 6 weeks old and is being a right pickle at the moment. She is feeding constantly, being a total misery and has barely slept for days. DH uses the usual excuse of having to get up for work and so he sleeps in the spare room and does very little to help so I have had no sleep...you all know how it goes.

He has dd for an hour or do about this time and I was looking forward to my minscule break. He didn't tell me his God-awful friends were coming and now I'm stuck upstairs with no tv cos he broke it and a phone that's about to peg out. Can't go down because a) I hate them and b) I look like a hideous unmade up hag.

AIBU to want to stick pins in his eyes?

not really BU, but hormonal and tired. book your lie in for saturday morning, only waking for feeds.

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YANBU. Are you breast or bottlefeeding? Only asking in terms of whether you can just give DD to DH and friends to sort out while you kip

hmm it's a bit thoughtless of him.
however I would make sure he still looks after dd like he usually does.
If I have friends round I sitll look after my kids- and so should he.
and you should stay and talk to us here

Bottle so he can help in theory. Just want to add that I have no objection to him having friends round, but if I had some warning I could have sorted out tv, brought up tea and chocs and made myself cosy up here instead of being a prisoner ( house is quite open plan so they'd see me shuffle past in my tracky bums and I'm buggered if I'm getting tarted up now).

why does it matter if they see you without make up???

It's not so much make up as, well... recognizably human.

agree with fingerwoman. maybe they might even get the hint that coming round late evening with a new mum/baby around is NOT a good idea for family harmony.

i do sympathise - DH was similarly no good at the newborn stage (mild depression) - hard as it is I think you have to ignore any "attitude" or negativity and just make DH start pulling his weight more. the only way to get used to a new baby is experience. I always found that appeals to "fairness" went down like a lead balloon - that saying I felt shite and stressed was more likely to bring about help being offered relatively willingly.