What would you do? (Child imbalance)

[Bagpuss2022]

We have 3 DC and it hasn’t dealt occurred to me till I got the text I got then morning.
eldest DC went to New York with school middle applied (it’s a school lottery) he never did but today been informed DD has been awarded a place I want to i don’t know compensate middle DS all of our DC have been able to do within reason activities.
it’s never even been brought up by DS2 I think maybe it’s just mum guilt he’s also the less academic child but also the most work hard. You can’t compare x child went to ballet school and y child went to wresting programme .
I just feel DC2 deserves what his siblings got/will have ? Opinions

talk to DC2 and offer the same cash to do something special. he might choose to go to a festival with friends or go interrailing or whatever. but it seems fair that he should get something of the same value.

Has the non-trip child finished education now? Because if not, there'll almost certainly be something else that comes up to pay for . If there really is no chance of a another school/uni/Scout trip ever, then yes, maybe take him somewhere. But if he is still in education, wait and see what's offered in the next few years.

I wouldn't give the cash, or try to invent something to treat him to.

My dc all know that we will do the best we can to support them with whatever opportunities present themselves to them.
Like you, we've been in the position of different dc being offered different opportunities that the others didn't get. Obviously they realise that isn't down to us. They are absolutely secure in knowing we love them equally and treat them the same in that we will do our best to support them all, but understand that each of their circumstances and opportunities are different, and, indeed, our circumstances might be different.

It all comes out in the wash.