How do you manage cancer treatments if you're a full time carer?

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I'm probably getting ahead of myself, but my GP has fast track referred me for suspected lung cancer. I've had blood tests, X-ray, CT scan and various other tests and so far all results look bad. Still waiting for an actual diagnosis but I'm worried that some sort of treatment is looming in my future. He's banned me from going on an upcoming holiday.

As of a few months ago I'm a full time carer for my autistic son who rarely goes to school (used to work full time but had to give up as he won't go to school). DH works full time. We also have another child and the two of them go to f

..go to different schools an hour apart, so school runs are challenging.

How do people manage surgery, chemo, radiotherapy appointments if they have caring responsibilities? I have family but they live far away and have their own responsibilities, there's no one who could come and help on a regular basis. And I have good local friends who would be happy to help, but DS has very high needs (is violent) and no one other than me and DH can watch him. I'm prepared to take myself off to appointments etc, but it means on the days DS won't go to school DH will miss work. He can occasionally wfh, but I'm worried about how often this is going to end up being.

Anyone been in this situation and has any advice?

Macmillan Cancer Support will help with everything including financial help. You need to put yourself first for the duration of your treatment even if it means your son perhaps having regular respite care
They will listen and help
https://www.macmillan.org.uk/

So sorry to hear this. Something similar happened to a colleague and her husband got signed off for a few months (stress at home is the official dr’s sign off for it) which helped managing the practical aspects. Wishing you all the best.