AIBU to be p****d off that dh is going on a 'boys' weekend

[Katie3677]

I kind of know that I am but am more peed off that it was supposed to be a Saturday night camping trip, and has now turned into a leave home early on Saturday and not be back until late Sunday night trip. All to go and be all male and build shelters, kill rabbits etc in the mountains.
Just angry that our family weekend has been hijacked by his mates for something that I just cannot see the point in.

Last year I did a girlie weekend to Spain, tomorrow I'm going on a girlie weekend to Disneyland Paris (OK, so the Dcs are going on that one too )

It's healthy to spend time apart (socially that is, not just work time) So long as he's not doing it every weekend, I do think you have to let this one be (although the hunting bit is a bit bleurgh)

Katie you have something in the bank to be cashed in at some opportune moment in the future!

I have had a girls' weekend away with some old friends every year for about 7 years. We sometimes go on a Bank Holiday w/e so we can have Fri night till Sun night. DH doesn't like me being away but he really appreciates why it's good for me to escape every once in a while. You should have the same attitude to your DH's w/e with his friends. And you should DEFINITELY organise one yourself! Don't whinge - go have some fun!

as everyone else has already said, YABU. You shouldn't be getting annoyed because he wants to do something fun with his friends, just because you don't see the point of it. It would be very unhealthy for you to only ever do stuff together a a family, your DH needs time awy with peers and so do you. Stop being snnoyed and start planning the great weekend you have away while DH stays home looking after the DCs.

Besides, spending time away from you will probably be good for you all, absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that....

I go off for weekends every other month with my dancing etc. He loves the freedom it gives him at home!

Stayed at my sisters a year ago and my husband was a bit down afterwards as they spend so much time together, going for walks and weekends away etc. Husband said he thought he'd married the wrong sister and I got a right earful.

Since then she's run off with her lover and they're getting divorced.

It's good to have some time apart, he'll really miss you when he's away and it's lovely to see each other again afterwards..though if he's covered in rabbit blood he might need a wash first...

SK

When I was little my mum used to go to an art class every wed evening. My dad used to call it 'secret night'. He and my brother & I would snuggle up on the sofa, read comics, go to bed a little later than usual, maybe have some sweets sometimes - all sorts of 'naughty' things that mum (supposedly!) didn't know about. It was fab!

Use your imagination and do something with the children that is supposed to be a secret from dad. Then when you arrange your weekend away he can do the same.

Nothing worse than clingy partners who don't give the other half freedom to be an individual once in a while - it's stifling. Don't go down that path - feel glad that he's the type to enjoy an outdoor weekend with his mates and doesn't want to slob out at the pub!