Future 3rd Baby or Snip

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Hi all,

So I'm 26 and my husband is 28. We have 2 children 4 and 1. I always wanted 3 but then got one of each so changed my mind.

So my husband got booked in for the snip and cancelled. He then booked in again and they literally sent an appointment for a weeks time but it made me panic.

I definitely don't want a 3rd now and can only think of the negatives of a 3rd. My husband is 99% sure he doesn't want a 3rd.

But I'm worried we will change our mind and forever regret it!

What would you do? AIBU to hold off for a few years but then if I had an accidental pregnancy I wouldn't know what to do.

Hold off if neither of you are sure. I think for most people 2 is more than plenty but you don’t want to do something you’d regret

Your husband should only get the snip if he is 100% certain he'll never want another child. 99% isn't good enough, do he'll have to cancel.

Double up on contraception methods (e.g. pill and condoms) and an accidental pregnancy is virtually impossible.

I would wait till your youngest is 3 or 4 to make a decision on something so permanent. Unless there is significant risk to your health or financially a third would be a crisis. You don’t seem certain - would you be asking on mumsnet if you where?

I am 2 and very much done, after DC2 was born I didn't have sex until I had a coil put in, and if the coil failed (god forbid) I would terminate. I don't think DH wants a vasectomy but I'd be glad if he did. He's 39 though.

i think you are both still young, and your youngest child is only 1, so if I were you I think I would wait a few more years. Unless you are struggling finding contraception that suits you?

Your youngest is too small to make a permanent decision unless you are both 100%. Hold off until he is certain.