Is this really unreasonable?

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Over the last couple of weeks I've lost 5 friends to suicide. I'm really struggling, to the point my work has booked me off. My husband is fully aware but chose to go out on the piss after my closest friend died. One of our neighbours came round and I lent her some money for her rent, frankly because she was being supportive when I had no other support.

My husband has spent the last few days ranting at me about lending some cash. It's been incessant. He also fell out with the neighbour, absolutely screaming at her about how she'd 'taken advantage of his wife'. Then went out on the piss again, leaving me at home. I don't really know what I'm asking but surely you can be nice to someone who's suffered a bereavement? Let alone 5? I feel so fucking unhappy

Are they his friends too?

Was his behaviour like this before you had so many losses?

What's your relationship dynamic normally like?

I'm so sorry you're going through this. One would be dreadful but 5 is beyond my imagination.

Did your husband know them too or is he generally insensitive and unsupportive?

Is it possible that your neighbour has taken advantage of you?

Do you have anyone else you can talk to about how you're feeling?

Your husband sounds pretty awful. Were any of the friends you've lost his friends too and he's dealing with grief in a different way? Just trying to figure out if there might be a semi acceptable reason for his behaviour.

I'm very sorry you're going through this by the way. Be kind to yourself.

I’m so sorry for your losses, that must be immeasurably hard.
Were they close to your dh, perhaps he’s grieving? Is he usually supportive as a partner?

I am sending u a big hug. I am.sufferung as a result of my partner committing suicide. It is bloody hard. I cannot imagine how you feel.losing 5 people. Find someone who will listen,hug u and just let u 'be'. It should be your husband I know. Perhaps he feels helpless. If this is the case he should just say he doesn't know what to do. Be kind to yourself OP.

I'm so sorry. This is just awful.
Big hug!
Look after yourself x

I'm so very sorry that's just awful. How is your relationship in general? I wonder if it's particularly good if this is how he reacts? I'd advise seeking some support the rough the gp or bereavement charity. Sending love

Thanks everyone and I'm so sorry to hear about your losses too. My husband knew two of them. But not very closely. I honestly just think he's being an arse now.

I'm so sorry for your losses. I think your neighbour took advantage of you and your husband's being an arse.

If he's normally a good partner could you spell out exactly what kind of support you need (and don't need) from him?