Massively struggling with friendships

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I have had the same group of friends for about 8 years now.

We're high school friends and have remained close since

I always feel like the least liked and valued and most different.

Even on the weekend just past I just feel like I gel the least but other times I don't

I have bad social anxiety and anxiety in general. It's hit or miss if I can socialise I feel. Last weekend I just couldn't I say daft things and my clipping in the to the conversation is off. It really annoys me

It's so bad I honestly just want to be alone all the time.

I do really wish I could be liked and liked as much as other members of the group.

Does anyone have any advice on this? Am I just one of those people who won't have friends?

You might find it easier to see them one at a time. Groups are always difficult if you're socially anxious because you have to keep track of so many different people all at once.

Useless reply here because I've no advice to give as i too feel like this and am trying to figure it all out. Just want you to know you're not alone and there is nothing wrong with you. I tend to relate to people better 1-2-1 rather than as a group.

@FruitBatBaby it's absolutely horrible I'm convinced people hate me for giving awkward or daft replies or want me out of the group because I don't gel well. I'm convinced after every social interaction people hate me after

It sounds like you have social anxiety, which is treatable - would you consider getting help for it?
And would you tell your friends? You could say something like 'I know this is daft after we've been friends for so long but I've recently realised I have social anxiety'.

Do you feel like that during the social gathering or only afterwards and you’re overthinking stuff? I mean judging and thinking about the other’s reactions and re-imagining it to be bad?

Perhaps it goes okay, (that’s why they all still hang about as a group and you are a part of that group also ) and the overthinking is making you feel otherwise.

What if you didn’t think about it afterwards. Would you meet up again because it had felt good at the time?

Your awkward / daft replies might be what’s unique about you. I’ve hung about in large groups and every single friend is part of that ‘fun’ and sometimes one person not being there unbalances the group. There’s a reason you’ve all been friends for so long. It clicks.

What are you like 1-2-1 with people, do you find that easier or struggle the same?

They don't. They love you for who you are, and if they've known you so long then presumably they know about your shyness? I doubt it matters to them, talk to the one youre closest to.