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AIBU?

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Boyfriend turned up late because he surprised me

49 replies

wishywashywellies · 12/06/2023 13:38

Boyfriend texted me last night to say he was on his way and would be there at half 7ish.

It gets to 8 o clock and I’m first of all worried that something had happened to him. I see his car pull up and he simply texts me “I’m here can you let me in?”

I’m fuming at this point because I felt he had no respect for my time, and he could’ve easily rung or dropped a text to let me know he would be late.

He turns up to the door with KFC (I mentioned I was craving it earlier) and said he’s really sorry he got stuck in there and it took forever. I couldn’t see why he couldn’t just ring or text to say he was delayed or whatever, especially as he was in there, but he said he didn’t want to give the surprise away.

He’s now pissed off that I’m pissed off when he was doing a nice thing.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Bellybootcut · 12/06/2023 13:40

Yes you are.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 12/06/2023 13:40
Hmm
afaloren · 12/06/2023 13:40

It was only half an hour and he was trying to surprise you with something nice. Loosen up.

007DoubleOSeven · 12/06/2023 13:40

Yes.
Bet he never surprises you again, poor guy

JauntyJinty · 12/06/2023 13:41

"Half 7ish" is pretty vauge - 8 O'clock is pushing the "ish" a little bit but I don't think that would really register as late to me!

Careeradviceplease1234 · 12/06/2023 13:42

YABU. Unless there is more to the story he was 30 minutes late because he tried to do a nice thing.

mumstheword001 · 12/06/2023 13:42

I voted you are.
He did a nice thing for you. I get he was late (only 30 minutes) but given he was doing a nice thing for you I wouldn’t of even given his lateness a second thought.

EVHead · 12/06/2023 13:42

How long have you been together? What does he usually mean by a time “ish”?

Anyhow, yes you were unreasonable. He did a nice thing.

maras2 · 12/06/2023 13:43

I've never heard such nonsense.
You sound a right mardy arse.

ComtesseDeSpair · 12/06/2023 13:43

Unless you had something planned for a particular time then arriving at 8 when you’ve said “half 7-ish” to me is fine, particularly if it was because he stopped to get you both food on the way.

MMMarmite · 12/06/2023 13:43

Depending on his journey length, I think arriving at 8 after an ETA of "7.30ish" is not that late. It's very early to be getting worried something happened. And you were at home, not waiting on a street corner. I'd relax and enjoy the food.

I'd be less relaxed if it were a friend, as id be preparing to host them, but in a long term relationship you're constantly back and forth so I think there should be more give and take on timings.

LG93 · 12/06/2023 13:45

For half an hour I think you're being a bit unreasonable. I get you were worried but he wasn't that late and was doing something nice. I could understand being a bit annoyed before he arrived but I think if that were me once I knew where he'd been I'd have moved on pretty quickly.

TheChosenTwo · 12/06/2023 13:45

Yabu, it’s 30 minutes and his half sevenish was pretty vague. Were you really worried because he turned up 30 minutes after his loose estimate? Also yabu for eating kfc 😂 it’s horrible!!
I would agree if someone arranged to meet me at work at a time and was 30 minutes late I would find it rude and lateness on the whole really Pisses me off but he wasn’t saying he’d be there 7:30 on the dot, he allowed himself some leeway there.

AmeIia · 12/06/2023 13:55

He didn't respect your time? Wow 🤣 the poor fella!!

AmeIia · 12/06/2023 13:55

Is this a reverse?

Aquamarine1029 · 12/06/2023 13:58

You're FUMING because he's a half hour late? A million things can cause you to be half hour late. Accident, traffic, etc.

You sound like hard work. Poor guy won't be getting you any more surprises.

LakeTiticaca · 12/06/2023 13:59

Poor bloke, if this is enough for you to have a strop he might just start wondering if the relationship is worth it

Comedycook · 12/06/2023 14:00

Is this a reverse? If it's not then you sound like hard work

OhComeOnFFS · 12/06/2023 14:00

If this isn't a reverse you need to take a long hard look at yourself.

CaloundraBlues · 12/06/2023 14:01

Jeez, he's done a nice thing, if he'd have contacted you if would have ruined his surprise. I couldn't get worked up about half an hour

Bewilderedandhurt · 12/06/2023 14:02

You sound like hard work, he did a nice gesture and gets berated by you for it, cut him some slack and don't be so ungrateful. He was only about 30min off his ETA.

AmeIia · 12/06/2023 14:02

Taking bets on how long til we get the deleted message, the OP has changed her mind 🤣

gamerchick · 12/06/2023 14:02

If someone brought me food that I'd been craving, it would have been instant forgiveness. Don't be high maintenance like that man.

potniatheron · 12/06/2023 14:03

OP, are you related to the poster who thinks her local barista has it in for her because her capuccino was served hot?

Because you both lack perspective.

CaloundraBlues · 12/06/2023 14:03

AmeIia · 12/06/2023 14:02

Taking bets on how long til we get the deleted message, the OP has changed her mind 🤣

I don't think this is OPs first post today, the last one was deleted.