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AIBU?

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to be missing the world of work a bit just 9 weeks after my baby's birth

16 replies

SebbysMum · 21/02/2008 16:12

Responding to the old barrage of emails at work seems like a holiday compared to having to drop everything every five minutes at home to sooth a grumbling baby. I've spent most of today carrying him around in the sling because he doesn't want to be put down. No '5pm' in sight. I could murder an after work drink. Anyone out there know what I mean?

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dontwanttogetoutofbed · 21/02/2008 16:15

i didn't take any time of work after either of my dd's! it was a time when my dh and i still worked in our own office, so i could bring them to work with me and leave when i needed, but, i know what you feel and it is all right to feel that way!

trixymalixy · 21/02/2008 16:25

I felt like that a bit as well. It is just so all-consuming having a young baby.

MrsTittleMouse · 21/02/2008 17:40

Not unreasonable at all. Things do generally get much easier after the first 3 months though, so there is hope.

HonoriaGlossop · 21/02/2008 18:33

Yup, YANBU at all! It is so hard with a young baby and yes, it's that thing of being responsible 24 hours a day that makes work seem a doddle, you get (usually) sentient adults to talk to and you get BREAKS

Being at home with a new baby IS harder

Keep your pecker up. Doing a grand job

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 21/02/2008 18:38

It will get easier, but having said that I went back to work 3 days a week when DS was a year old. It saved my sanity.

TillyScoutsmum · 21/02/2008 18:43

What's not to miss ?? After work drinks, coffee breaks, gossip and putting the world to rights at the water cooler, lunch breaks, emailing your mates, banter with colleagues and "work" that doesn't involve shitty nappies or relentless feeding

It does get easier though...

nooka · 21/02/2008 18:44

I had a very limpety second baby and went back to work when she was three months old. It was such a relief! She was much better with the nanny too She's been lovely for a whle now though and I'm just about to have a period at home with both my two - but they are 7 and 8 so a different kettle of fish really!

finknottle · 21/02/2008 18:44

Hardest thing you'll ever do ime. And no medals going.
Everything you wouldn't normally do you may/can/must - daytime films, hot chocolate at 4 am, dressing gown till who-cares-when, kilos of fruit, tonnes of chocolate, tears at lunch-time, sleep half the day if you can.
You will never again have such an opportunity/excuse to be as focussed on only 2 things (you and baby) again. You're allowed to be hormonal, irrational, illogical - whatever you want.
It's heaven and hell all at once and allowed to be.
It will be over soon (ish )

orangina · 21/02/2008 18:51

I remember calling dh when ds was about 6 weeks and blubbing down the phone "I wish I was in the office.... boo hoo......"

I think it was the total lack of control that did it for me (and this was dc #2, a pretty easy child really!)

Bouncingturtle · 21/02/2008 18:52

I understand - I feel the same way, even something as simple as getting myself dress is now a military exercise! But it is worth it just to see gaze at me with such fascination

pelafina · 21/02/2008 18:54

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mrsruffallo · 21/02/2008 19:00

I have never missed office life but I didn't enjoy it anyway
Time to myself, yes, but office life not at all

mumtoone · 21/02/2008 20:33

When I had my first child I missed work quite a lot and it look my most of my maternity leave to get used to being off work so I can understand what you're saying. I remember resenting the fact that dh got to go back to work after his paternity leave and I was stuck at home. I've now had a second child and I 've actually quite enjoyed my second maternity leave. I put this down to knowing so many more people with children so I've found it quite sociable.

Sarahjct · 21/02/2008 20:47

I could have written all of those posts. I have been off for nearly three months and dd is 6 weeks old. I am going insane with lack of sleep, boredom and resentment that DH not only gets to go to work but gets peaceful nights in the spare room so that he can get up in the morning.

I took dd into work yesterday to show her off and could have cried. Had a great hour while everyone updated me with the gossip, then I just felt really left out. You know that horrible feeling when 'your' phone rings and your replacement scuttles off to answer it...

I hope it gets easier otherwise it's going to be a hell of a long year and I'd hate to waste it and dd's babyhood wishing I was somewhere else

pistachio · 21/02/2008 20:57

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soopermum1 · 21/02/2008 21:23

YANBU, being in the office is easier than looking after a small baby.

if it's any help, i went back to work when DS was 7 months old, full itme.

to make mat leave a bit less 'strange' i got comfort in routine, filling the day up, having things i really needed to do that day (xmas shopping was particularly well organised that year)

i really turned a corner when DS went to bed at 7:30, should've done it sooner, really, it was my mum that 'broke him in for me' in that respect when she stayed for a couple of nights when he was about 3 months old. i would get him to bed, put on some candles and pour some wine, kinda signalled i was 'off duty' for at least a few hours.

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