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[Sadless]

Hi all my daughters being having different health problems recently. She been referred over to the hospital for having unexplained bruises she's been put on beater blockers for anxiety. She work about 25 hours a work but is always sleeping when not at work.
So my issue is that she has decided to move out and I am concerned that she's not well enough really. She will have to make sure works about 30 hours a week to cover for bills (share house).
She has just finished the first year of uni which she thinks she's failed because she had no motivation to do any work at all. Shes lost about 1 and half stone in the last 2 months she has a new friend group and her attitude is awful. She nasty towards me and her youngest brother. Shes nearly 19 and I can't stop her from moving out but am I being unreasonable to tell her that I am worried.
Any advice

Sal

No, you are not unreasonable to tell her you are worried but you can't stop her moving out.

Make sure she knows that if does get too much she can return home for a bit of TLC. Maybe her bad attitude is partly because she doesn't feel well? Doesn't excuse it, but might explain it.

Could you also ask to be kept in the loop regarding hospital appointments or medication? Could you sort out the re-ordering and collection of prescription medications for her? If she says no, then you can't, obviously.

Is there a chance your daughter has been taking drugs?

It sounds like an awful situation for you. Has she said why she wants to move out?
Good luck op.

Is she being checked for Diabetes, as the rapid weight loss could be a sign of that. A friends daughter was diagnosed with type one at a similar age and there had never been a hint of it before.
Yes you're allowed to tell her your concerned about her well-being but try and frame it as that rather than saying she can't cope. She might be more receptive if you say you're wanting to look after her when she doesn't seem well rather than you don't believe she's capable.

She had blood test before they referred her to the hospital so don't know if that would have tested for diabetes. I don't think she taking drugs or anything.
I spoke to my husband last night and he said she has decided she ready to move out and she knows that she not in the best of health but it's her choice.
I have spoke to her and shes moving tomorrow.
Thanks for the advice

Sal

I've just seen your post about this on another thread.

It does seem she's been referred on the 2 week pathway to investigate the possibility of a blood cancer (and your posts above include a number of the typical symptoms).

Yes, she may well be asked to consent to a bone marrow aspiration (and bone biopsy, taken at the same time) which is needed to establish a diagnosis and what treatment protocol to follow (blood cancers aren't staged/graded in quite the same way as solid cancers, but as with them, getting it early gives better options). More bloods are very likely. And for some they might also want to do a lymph node biopsy. Or perhaps a scan.

But until further tests are done, it's hard to know what they might think is wrong. It's quite possible there are other underlying causes.