Morning sickness Vs housework

[Moroccanqueen]

Just looking for some advice - this is not an AIBU but posting for traffic.

I am suffering from horrendous morning sickness. I had hypremisis with all previous pregnancies from week 5 to week 27, I’m currently 11 weeks on the dot and whilst I’m not suffering from hypremisis (I don’t think) I am really struggling to maintain the house. Kids are both at school/nursery from 8am-5pm so the days I’m not working I get a break in the day but I’m feeling so unwell and keep being sick. Nothing gets rid of the nausea or stops me being sick. I have tried every type/combination of ginger and/or lemon and my first lot of sickness meds didn’t work so the doctor moved me onto a second type which is still not working.

Car is in the garage for the next week minimum so doing school run on the bus and throwing up infront of everyone has become my least favourite hobby.

I also have ADHD so I’m hopelessley unorganised and messy despite me trying my hardest.
other half works long hours (6:30am - 8:30pm) but is really helpful when he’s here.

but mums how do you manage a full house and cooking/cleaning/school run while being sick and feeling shit 100% of the time? I’m struggling so much and feel like I’m doing a rubbish job

i just want to sleep all the time

Goodness me just do what you have to and leave the rest. Look after yourself and the children. That's enough.

Keep the children alive. That's it! Do the absolute minimum. I had awful pregnancy sickness all 3 times I was pregnant too. There's no way in hell I could have done the bus thing but I appreciate you have no choice. I suggest you: do the school run on the bus. Sleep and sip fluids. Do the school run. Lay on the sofa and watch the kids/sip fluids until your dh gets home and go to bed. If food smells trigger your sickness, just give the kids snacks and your husband can feed them a proper supper later. He will also have to do the main household stuff too. If you are able, shove stuff in the dishwasher/ washing machine as you go past. I don't think I ever did more than that!

Yes, literally the bare minimum. It does sound quite severe and not like any morning sickness I've had. I can only liken it to taking kids to school when I've been ill - which I've never done! Do you have anyone who could help you out? I certainly would happily help anyone out in these circumstances. You don't even sound well enough for this but advice that kept with me was that the only cleaning that matters is the kitchen and bathrooms/WC from a hygiene point of view. Nothing else matters now and when you have a small baby if struggling.

Goodness I remember spending all day in bed and only managing to keep down sliced apple and melting like a green puddle in the middle of the floor when I tried to do anything. Yes you do need to do what you need to, but only what you have to. Your DH needs to prep absolutely everything he can possibly for you, lunches, kids clothes and bags etc.

How many hours does your h work? He does 14-hour days!

It’s impossible - you literally just have to make it through the day as best you can. It’s in these times you need your partner to step up massively or if you have family to lean on then ask for help.

@Moroccanqueen - have your symptoms eased any now? I’m trawling mumsnet looking for stories of optimism; I’m nearly 12 weeks and feel sick 100% of the time, 2 kids, full time job and I can’t think straight. I’ve just managed to sneak in a 30 min nap between work meetings (thankfully I can work from home) but I feel lousy. Trying to tell myself that things will start to ease up starting later this week… but I know with my first I only started to feel better at 16 weeks (although I’m sure I didn’t feel this bad first time round)