Background: I'm currently supporting my mum who has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. She is receiving palliative care and treatment but isn't going anywhere imminently, to the best of my understanding.
As you'd imagine, she's quite poorly and frail and is feeling really low. She doesn't need much in the way of practical help (convinced her to get a cleaner) but she does need emotional support. I go up to her house (30 mins from me) 6 days a week, and on the one day I don't go my auntie visits.
She lives with my dad (bad relationship) who is physically disabled so can't support a great deal practically and is less than helpful emotionally.
Now to the AIBU: I work FT and am currently 23 weeks pregnant. I cancelled two holidays for March and June when mum was diagnosed so I could take her to treatment every day and be there for her. She has finished treatment right now and is suffering some side effects which, unfortunately, can't be helped - She just needs to ride it out. I am utterly exhausted, emotional and struggling. I have a wonderfully supportive husband but my very small family (only child) means that every appointment, consultation and phone call has to be managed by me. I took a week off AL this week to try to rest and wound up more exhausted than before because of all the things that have cropped up re mums health. Would I be unreasonable to try to take a weeks holiday before I am unable to travel any more? This would be my.last chance to travel alone with my husband before baby arrives and honestly, I could do with a break.... however, I am wracked with guilt and concern regarding what would happen if mum.took ill when I was away. It would mean she would have no visitors and no support, especially if she wound up in hospital. Equally, by that point she could have really picked up and I could be sat at home gutted to have missed my.chance to have a rest before my baby comes. Would you take the risk and go (YANBU), or would you stay safe and remain at home (YABU)?