Have been seeing a guy for a while, he was supposed to be coming to mine this evening.
I have had a hideous migraine since last night, completely intractable and unresponsive to the pharmacy of pills I've knocked back.
Guy was initially very keen and proactive, but over the past couple of weeks has become progressively worse at messaging me back. We used to have chats on whatsapp in realtime, now it's a strange kind of burst of messages, then a reply a day later. It doesn't feel like conversation. He has ADHD and has been having a hard time recently, so I have tried not to take it personally - I was pretty sure (based on how he acts) that this doesn't reflect his feelings for me have changed. However I could be wrong.
This morning he replied to my messages from yesterday and asked what time he should come round. I immediately replied saying I was still feeling awful, and would he be ok to do another day? I suggested tomorrow or wed so he'd know I wasn't brushing him off.
I had assumed because I replied immediately, presumably while the phone was still in his hand, he'd get back to me. But nope, no reply and nothing 8 hours later.
AIBU to have really hurt feelings by this? I feel so ill, and if the situation was reversed (and even if it was a friend or collegue messaging) I'd get back to them quickly saying no problem, feel better, I can do X date instead.
So as not to dripfeed, there is a chance he is feeling insecure, like I am making excuses etc but without having a conversation with him (I haven't seen him in person since the messaging got bad) it's impossible for me to tell
Have had work task looming over me that should have only taken an hour yest, and feel full of dread and anxiety. Ugh.