Husband

[MrsPetty]

My husband gets hit on a lot! I can totally see why. He’s a cool dude. But he wears a really visible wedding ring and we’re very happily married. AIBU to think all is not fair in love and war? We live in different countries and he tells me about some of the madder incidences. Just this week a woman asked him if he was married and he said yes, so she asked if she could be his cleaner or gardener! AIBU to think it’s shabby of some women not to give AF that he’s someone’s husband just because I’m not by his side 24/7?

Why are you living separately?

I don't think it's on for someone to approach a man with a wedding ring, so I'd agree with you on that. However, maybe they've never seen you with him and wonder why, so are asking because of that.

As an aside, what is your husband hoping to gain from telling you this stuff?!

Why is he telling you this?

It could have been said as a joke.
Many people see flirting as just harmless fun, married or not.
I think if your husband was a bit more formal and put boundaries early on they wouldn't be as brazen though will still get hit on. Something about his demeaner is probably giving the impression he would either cheat or be the type to enjoy this kind of 'banter'.. maybe he acts too friendly and matey.

We need a picture to judge.

Whats his reason to even tell you this? What exactly is he angling for from you. That would be my question to him

@Dacadactyl We have a business in the UK and I live in Ireland with my DC (not DHs) - I/they didn’t want to change our family dynamic overnight, blending can take time. @CherryOBaybe He’s super formal. Not flirty at all! He has nothing to gain or lose by telling me. We speak several times a day so it comes up in conversation. He knows I don’t suffer with jealousy/insecurity. And I trust him 💯. It took an awful long time for us to get to where we are. He definitely wouldn’t risk it for a fling. @TomatoSandwiches He’s 65!!! It’s not like he’s a young thang…but I think he looks good for his age.

I think he is genuinely shocked and confused by it a lot of the time. For some reason it won’t let me add an image.
I think I just find it sad that women that KNOW he has a wife - two that have actually met me - think it’s okay to make passes at him.

Hmm weird he's telling you... Double bluff perhaps when you don't live in the same country.

Are you sure they aren't asking if they can work for him coz they think he won't try and hit on them?

Why is he telling you this? Is it all lies to make you move in with him?

@hattyhathat 😂 that’s a really good question but he’s not telling me for that reason. We’re both cool with our living arrangements. We’ll spend the summer together and we see each other a lot. Video call every day/night. We’re super connected. We literally tell each other everything.

I think that seems surprisingly persistent of some women.

@IWasFunBeforeMum cool name btw 😂 it doesn’t feel weird that he’s telling me at all. It feels like everything else we tell each other about our days. I have no issue with him at all…my question was absolutely why do some women feel okay about hitting on a married man?

Well beauty is in the eye of the beholder but I wouldn’t look once never mind twice

@LifeIsPainHighness it certainly is 😊

I think it's bollocks to be honest.

He's telling you these fibs as he wants you to think you're a lucky duck to be with such a handsome man as himself.

He looks like he fancies himself far more than any imaginary woman could 🤣

Pics 😂 he won’t actually care! He’s all other the internet because of our business. that's not really how consent works

He's lying.... he's not getting hit on daily cos he's not hot.

You need a new bullshit detector OP. I wouldn't believe a word he tells you.

Just what do you think he is he trying to accomplish by telling you such nonsense? Wise up.

@DannyLaRuesBestFrock Wow. So you think he’s lying to me? He knows I feel lucky to be married to him. He doesn’t need to do anything to add to that …

Yes. I do think he is lying to you. He does not get hit on all the time I can assure you of that.

Yeah I think maybe he’s telling porky pies to make you feel really lucky to have him!!

😂😂

Some women have no shame 🤷‍♀️. My ex used to get hit on all the time by other women. He was good looking and very outgoing ( they didn't know he was a total narc and very very abusive), they would do it in front of me while acting like I wasn't even there!

@Whatkindofuckeryisthis I 💯 know that he has zero reason to lie to me. He tells me about things like this in the same way he tells me what he’s having for dinner …

Who is he taking those selfie pictures for ? Seems odd a man of 65 doing this to be honest .