I see this all the time on here. Some poor soul has just had their heart shattered, and inevitably, someone will come along and say 'you need to move on', as if this^^ is some kind of helpful advice.
I think that most people who have had their heart broken know that they need to 'move on' at some point, but moving on emotionally is not as simple as popping to the next room. Usually people need time to grieve, experience, and fully process their emotions before they are ready to even consider 'moving on', whatever this actually means from an emotional standpoint.
Often people will try to 'move on' in some sense. They may move physically, get new friends/hobbies, maybe start a new relationship, but this doesn't necessarily mean that emotional pain just disappears. Emotions don't work like that. Chances are that intrusive thoughts, reminders, and uninvited emotions will still pop up. Moving on emotionally isn't something that you can just decide to do, and there is no set timescale.
I recognise that there may be some cases where it is slightly more justified (i.e. where someone has put their life on hold pining after an ex for the past 10 years), but when someone has just experienced a horrendous breakup, divorce, or an abusive relationship, it just seems like such an insensitive thing to say. It's the equivalent of saying 'get over it'. It completely disregards the difficulty of this process, and the intense emotional pain associated with a breakup.
Don't even get me started on 'you need to stop giving him/her headspace...'
Interested to know what others think when they see this 'advice' dished out.
AIBU to think that clichés like this are unhelpful?