PMT - is it real? Divorce on the cards every month

[FranCall]

Any advice/views on whether the feelings we feel when hormonal (in my case 4 days before my period) are valid/real? I have such rage. Is that normal? Do hormones exagerate stuff or are they actually real feelings?

I really really hate my husband during this time. And I don't know if actually the rest of the time I'm just some people-pleasing doormat & that's why I don't get lived at him? I manage to get on fine the rest of the month but i google divorce solicitors every month without fail and the feeling subsides. But maybe it's just because I'm a wimp the rest of the time?

For example - today he slept in when it was meant to be my lie in and by the time he finally moved (and yes I did keep shouting for him to get up) - I'd already done the toddler and the baby's breakfasts. And then he just made a comment about a young actress (clueless is on the telly) and said "I bet that girl is one of those gross old frozen faced Hollywood types now, pretending she's still hot"

Both of these make me want to literally run away from him. More than the ick, total rage.

But if it happened last week, I'd have probably moved on in about 2 minutes.

Maybe he is actually a real dick though and PMT just means i see him for what he is?

Also - any tips on how to manage PMT rage? It's out of control.

Yip, I tried 2md diazepam prescribed by one psychiatrist but found that going a long walk, having chocolate and a cocktail in a can worked much better for me.

Way cheaper than the appointment too.

Tried the pill and felt like I had severe PMS every day for 2 months, so never again.

I also keep a journal. I can see my mood fluctuate in a pattern.

Stumbled across this and this is me!!! Every month I have a world ending row with my husband and hate him and then afterwards it’s like it clears when I get my period and I’m fine again!!! How do people manage it ? (Hrt doesn’t sound quite right to me I’m 37) wondering if I should go back on the pill (never went back after my 2 kids and last one is nearly 3)?? Advice v welcome !!

Look into peri menopause symptoms. PMT and PMDD are very real. The Mirena coil is good for levelling out as your hormones don’t fluctuate.

I got help with my PMS years ago I was a murderous wench both at ovulation and the days before my period started.

I know take all the following which help massively B6, Starflower Oil and Flaxseed Oil. The difference is amazing. I'm still more sensitive and irritable but far more stable. I also track my periods so I above doing much those 3 days when I know I'm hormonal.

He sounds like a bit of an arse but PMT totally makes everything a million times worse. I was a monster for about a week before my period, irrational, upset, angry, intolerant and wanted to disappear… until I started citalopram 10mg a day. Feel like a different person in terms of PMT!

I also suffer with PMDD and I am in therapy also, my therapist has suggested that a lot of things we are able to tolerate, we just can't put up with when we are at that point in our cycle.

So yes your feelings are real, those things would absolutely piss you off, but usually your logical brain would kick in and you would tolerate it.

Basically hormones narrow your field of tolerance.