To let 1 year old dc play in our garden?

[Llamadramass]

DC 1 is the most outdoorsy kid I have had! Moment he comes downstairs he’s waiting by the back door to go out.

Hes happy just playing in the garden plodding about. We don’t have the best garden (new build) it’s big but very muddy lots of dead grass.

DH keeps having a go at me because he’s getting dirty. But what the hell am I supposed to do? Keep stopping him?

i don’t see the issue he’s having a good time, when he comes in I can give him a quick wash and freshen up.

AIBU? I love watching him play and be happy and free!

Mucky kids are happy kids. As long as its not all getting trodden into the carpet every day I don't see the issue.

How does dh entertain him all day when he has him alone?

Mucky kids are why we have baths and washing machines!

Do you have a washing machine and a bath or shower?

I honestly don't see what his problem is.

I work all day so DH has him all day and he is a clean freak. They will usually watch TV and just play with his toys inside.

As long as he can't reach the secateurs, he should be outside as much as possible. Fresh air, pottering and discovering are the things that one year olds should do. And he's too young for the keep clean stuff, getting clean dirty is great for his immunity. Let him roam!

So long as the garden is as clear of anything that could cause injury (rubble, old ironmongery etc) then it sounds like the perfect place to be. Mud/dirt cleans off and it is a great learning environment. All of our previous fosterings spent huge amounts of time in the garden/outdoors and it still carries on now they are in their forever homes.

Is dh a SAHD? doesn't he even take him out for walks, or to the swings or the pool?

You are not unresonable but i would get some sand mixed with pgrass seed and top soil for damper areas of the garden so it will be all grassy in a month or so.

Watch TV? Sounds boring especially with this lovely weather!
Surely he can stick him in the bath afterwards. tell him to stop being lazy!

Do you have other kids?

He works part time so goes to work on an evening when I’m back. He takes him to the park maybe once a week.

That’s why I miss being home with him!

Very boring. We've just got back from a walk and there were plenty of DC in the playground at 9 this morning.

DH needs to be doing more with him.

My 10 & 4 year old are massive outdoor kids, the 10 year old comes in looking like she's done a shift down the pit.
Nothing a quick bath/shower/flannel wash cannot sort.
I use a bar of vanish soap to sort potential stains.
YANBU

What a shame for your child .

Exploring is good for their development. Your DHs stance might be actively harming him.

As long as he's safe and you keep an eye on him in the garden it's fine. Children need to get grubby, try and eat grass and watch bugs.

Your DC is missing out because your OH does not like dirt. Child should go outside every day, and definitely not have telly all day.

I feel sorry for your son and your husband is being unfair! He should be in the park or the garden in this weather, lots of suncream and get him outside!
Plenty of time for indoor play in winter!

Yes I have 2 older ones, they go in and out of the garden and on their iPads.

Your oh could/should be going out to play with him at least some of the time. He sounds a lazy parent if he is just watching TV and not even having the housework to do whilst with the toddler.

Well you don't wana see our 3 under 3 they adore being out and look like little pitman after 5 minutes, but luckily they love baths also haha

Why do people keep having kids with men like this

Your partner is a nutter

No 1 year old needs television

Why not suggest you both encourage him outdoors and involve ds in improv the garden. Add some flower beds, a veg patch or get a mud kitchen its great he wants to be outside.