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Aibu to blame myself for my tweens attitude

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Bigbumbetty · 11/06/2023 02:15

She has started to be aggressive not towards anyone but making sounds, saying hurtful comments and a general feeling of anger and passive aggression

if her friends come over she has a go if they say something to me about anything personal about her. She’s hyper sensitive about it and I think that comes from feeling critised

I had a highly critical mum and I remember internalising this kind of anger.
iv had a long hard think and realised that I am angry and negative because of my own stress from my mother and my position in life. Which I am abs have changed.
i also think have I been to critical and now it’s coming out this way.
When she is back chatty and angry I end up having a go and I’m wondering is there a better way ?

how can I change this ?
is It too late too change this?
how do I do this?

i just want a good relationship with her and I don’t want us to argue like me and my mother do. I also want her to feel less angry and I wonder if perhaps iv been too critical. When she back chats I do tend to have a go and point out what she has done wrong but that’s not working. Please help me see a better way to heal this cycle

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