I need to vent about this and maybe get some good advice. My partner regularly staya away at his Mums and im so tired of being left to deal with everything. We have 6 kids aged 11y-5m, one ASD and i've also recently been diagnosed ASD as well as having a physical disability and mental health issues but I do my absolute best every single day. My issue is i am so fed up of my partner once a month going to stay at his mums for days each time leaving me to deal with everything. I dont get a say or opinion in it. He went for 4 days mid may and hes currently away again this time for 6 days. He gets 28 days holiday per year from work which refreshes every January. He has just 3 days left cos hes used almost all of them to go stay at his mums. I get zero downtime and break because im breastfeeding our youngest. I dont know what to say or do because he doesnt think this is abnormal or wrong. I dont understand how he can keep swanning off for days as a father and not see its ridiculous. He wanted this life just as much as i did or so i thought. I know people will ask am i sure he is at his Mums and id like to clarify that he definitely is at his mums so i know he isnt staying elsewhere. He is so attached to his mum and he feels terrible when he doesnt see her for a few weeks. I get on really well with his mum and i dont get why she hasnt told him its not right. He doesnt realise he is chipping away at my faith in this relationship. Am i being totally unreasonable in thinking hes totally selfish for constantly swanning off? Or am i ok to feel this way and what can i do to get through to him. Its depressing me so much.