Shameless thread for advice

[Namechange1990]

First off please be brutal but am in a not great place so I would love some honest advice without making me feel worse than I do already. I am a mum to 6 aged 18 down to 2 and a step mum of 2 (they don’t see their mum so I’ve been around since they were little 5+ years). I’ve been with my partner 7 years almost but am so unhappy, I work 50 hours a week as well as bringing up my kids and training but im
always made to feel I’m not good enough… my little one is 1 and I went back to work at 9 months. My partner is very abusive and I desperately want to her away but I don’t know where to start and I’m scared of leaving my step kids and know it’s daft but my pets too… sorry know I’m being silly but heads now all over the place. Do I stay or do I go I’ve hidden my keys as he moves them

Sorry to hear what you're going through OP. I'm afraid I don't have experience of how to get help with leaving in this sort of situation, as I just up and went. However, I just wanted to say that you should definitely go, as life is MUCH TOO SHORT to put up with being miserable like this. I'm sure that others who have been where you are, will be along to give advice soon.

I wish I could up and leave I really want to but my step kids mean I can’t as easily

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Refuge has a free confidential helpline - would it help to talk to someone and talk through your situation? It's such a tricky situation with the step children. How many kids would you take with you?

I’d be taking my 6 with me… I’ve been told I can’t go to worl tommorow so hoping I can use a dog walk to get advice

Who told you you can’t go to work?

The fact you work makes it easier to leave, not harder. Do you have childcare tomorrow? Do you have a car?

You're working a 50 hour week and looking after 8 children, including at least one just toddling, plus pets, plus training for sonething? Well firstly you need to rehome the pets to a reputable rescue because there is no way you can provide adequate care for them. Then, if this is true, you get SS involved because I can't see how you can possibly provide adequate care for your own children. Unless of course you're relying on the older children to care for the younger ones? And sort your birth control out.

Hi op I'm so sorry to hear you're in such an unhappy situation. Are you able to tell us any more about it so we can try to help?
If you've only been with your partner for 7 years presumably only some of your 6 children are biologically his. Is the father of your old children on the scene? Is he able to help with a temporary housing solution for some of them if needed?

50 hours a week plus training and looking after kids/pets isn’t worthy of ss involvement ffs.

I work around that per week; I’m doing my masters, granted I have less kids but I do have pets.

Kids are in school/nursery/childcare, or with their father. We have a dog walker.

Your comment is ridiculous. Just because you couldn’t cope doesn’t mean others couldn’t.