So long story but I have 3 grown up SC with my partner of 3 years all of which have in the past when they were little stayed over at our house and 1 actually lived with us for a while when his mum kicked him out for being "unruly". Anyway just wanted to give you all a bit of background to show we have always had a great relationship and they would always when little come to me more than their dad whenever they wanted to tell something or share something.
Now all 3 are grown there is 3 SS and a SD, now the SD has a partner they have a child our GC and another baby on the way own their house both work full time very successful I'm life at the mo however I have noticed whenever the SD ever does anything round her house or any special occasions barring her gender reveal me and her dad never so much as get an invite yet her mum and her mums boyfriend and everyone else gets invited and we get left out all of the time to say it hurts is an understatement. We all live on the same estate so we all live within walking distance of each other 5/10 mins.
Today for example my partner was talking to 1 of his sons who just happened to casually mention that the SD was having a bbq round hers and as usual everyone else was round there we didn't even get an invite.
I feel so upset about this and I think I now know why, I spent my whole childhood being left out of things or not invited to things or bullied and wondering why I am not enough now it is coming from someone who is supposed to be close. However what also makes me mad is come Xmas or birthdays they will remember they have a dad and step mum then and expect money and presents off us everytime even Easter etc.
Am I BU to be upset by this? Just to add the 3 SS ages are 16,19 & 21 and SD is 23.
YABU - you're a grown adult now just suck it up and accept this is how kids can be
YANBU -your feelings are valid and no one deserves to ever feel like they're not enough.