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Original poster

To bring another child to birthday party?

18 replies

SunshineAndFizz · 10/06/2023 14:21

Older DC has been invited a party, I've asked the mum if she'd mind me bringing my other DC too who is 8 months. I explained they'll be in the sling, won't be joining in activity or have food, they'll literally just walk around with me. I'll also pay for their entry too (if there's a charge).

The mum hasn't replied and the party is soon - would it be unreasonable to bring 8 month old with me?

OP posts:
Sunsetred · 10/06/2023 14:22

Please take your baby!

Lilliflip · 10/06/2023 14:23

Not unreasonable to take a baby in a sling. There’s no impact on the parent or party is there?

Dragonsandcats · 10/06/2023 14:24

I don’t think anyone would have a problem with an 8 month sibling tagging along!

Dinosaursdontgrowontrees · 10/06/2023 14:24

I think with a baby that is fine totally different if it was a toddler. Where is the party?

londonrach · 10/06/2023 14:24

A baby in a sling no problem a toddler who sit in a chair and eat food yabu. Honestly with a baby in a sling I wouldn't worry.

FlounderingFruitcake · 10/06/2023 14:24

I can’t see what reasonable objection there could possibly be.

Billyho · 10/06/2023 14:25

It’s fine,

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SunshineAndFizz · 10/06/2023 14:26

It's a soft play type party if that's relevant.

Thanks. Wasn't sure if it was a major no-no to bring other kids.

OP posts:
mastertomsmum · 10/06/2023 14:26

Taking a baby is fine, although you might want to jump at the chance of your OH doing childcare if that’s an option.

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 10/06/2023 14:27

Sounds fine to me OP and how refreshing to offer to pay their entry too (I doubt anywhere would charge in this instance) remember a birthday party for my DD where two CF mums bought invited child's siblings and proceeded to join in with the fruit picking at a fiver a pop and the make your own pizza at another fiver then made me out to be the Bad Guy when I asked them for a tenner to cover uninvited child's costs

Only thought OP is, is your invited child old enough to be ok without you should baby get grouchy and you need to maybe go outside for 10 mins to sooth them?

Hope you all have a nice time

funinthesun19 · 10/06/2023 14:30

If she pulls her face at a mum bringing a baby along with her then she’s weird. A baby isn’t the same as a fully fledged child. I doubt she will bat an eyelid though.

I think there’s an unwritten rule that if you have a baby you are free to bring your baby along to the party because a baby is a baby. So I don’t think you even had to ask her if I’m honest.

ecuse · 10/06/2023 14:30

Agree...an additional child wanting a party bag is a pain if unannounced. A baby in a sling is completely fine.

changeyerheadworzel · 10/06/2023 14:43

Baby in a sling is perfectly acceptable.

GG1986 · 10/06/2023 14:47

A baby in a sling would be fine
If it was a 5 year old that would clearly be joining in, then probably no as potentially could affect numbers of how many children could go on the soft play at a time and wouldn't be paid for.

FlounderingFruitcake · 10/06/2023 15:21

SunshineAndFizz · 10/06/2023 14:26

It's a soft play type party if that's relevant.

Thanks. Wasn't sure if it was a major no-no to bring other kids.

Kids yes. Baby in sling, total non issue.

waterrat · 10/06/2023 15:24

Its such a non issue she probably forgot to reply

stichguru · 10/09/2023 22:44

A kid that would want to join in would be rude but a baby is fine.

JLM1981 · 11/09/2023 16:23

I don't think that would be an issue at all. I recently had a party and 3 of the attendees turned up with siblings (soft play). I think it's nice that you asked in advance 🙂

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