Turning up late to a wedding reception. Yay or any?

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YABU - Its not okay.
YANBU - Its okay.

I'm talking half an hour at the most. Childcare plans fell through last minute and it's a possibility that we may be late. Shall I do everything humanly possible to get there on time?

During the ceremony, or later in the day? I can’t picture what went on here, is the bride like the Queen where nobody is allowed to walk ahead of her?!

What a condescending response. If they don't care they shouldn't invite people at all. There is nothing wrong with letting someone know you may be late. Lateness is really rude. No one should assume turning up at any time after the time stated on the invitation is fine.

Half an hour late for the evening reception is fine.

Presumably if you choose to invite someone to your wedding, they are not a "random".

My experience of evening dos is it's mostly colleagues, neighbours and friends of the parents so not your closest friends.

Half an hour late to an evening reception is no big deal at all

Gosh, wasn’t expecting such a pile on. Merely suggesting that some couples like to do a first dance/staged entrance to the party and it would be awkward to open a door at the wrong moment and interrupt it. It might not be your style (certainly isn’t mine) but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

Obviously it’s easy to wait for a minute, and of course don’t text the bride on the day. We had someone cancel due to covid and DH/best man dealt with a swift shuffle of the seating. I only found out when I tried to introduce someone to him and he wasn’t sitting there 😂.

@Changingplace I was walking in my wedding dress to my wedding ceremony being piped in by a piper. I did find it rude to have two sets of guests rushing past me to get to their seats, particularly as the wedding ceremony was running late.

Crack on you'll be fine.

I had exactly this yesterday, reception from 1230.
I went to garage for a replacement indicator bulb around 10am. I should have known better with an old Land Rover 🙄. Screws were rusted to bits in the lens cover, the bulb was stuck fast. I asked and the guys came out to help me. Ended up needing a whole new unit putting in, I left there at 1145. Quick shower, dry hair, make up on etc etc then into my pretty dress. Slunk into the reception about 1.15. Thankfully not a sit down do, they were still on pre lunch drinks. Nobody noticed, you'll be fine!

Don't worry, they usually run late

It's OK to be late to the evening, weddings often run late anyway so you might end up on time!

Yeah they should’ve been seated ahead of you for the ceremony, agreed - but this is nothing like the OP arriving to an evening reception a bit later than planned.

Honestly, the wedding is not about YOU. If you must inform someone that you are running late, at least have the decency to call a bridesmaid or a sibling. They won't care either, but leave the poor couple alone, you really are not their priority. They should be able to focus on getting ready without being interrupted by some random 😂

why would you even think about disrupting the arrival of the bride, and making everyone focus on you?

If you are late but see everyone standing waiting for the bride, or see the bride, just wait for 3 minutes until you can quietly enter the room without people noticing? It's not that hard.

Yeah obviously if it’s ahead of the ceremony, which is why I was asking as this wasn’t clear at all on when during the day it happened.

It's your closest friends too surely?

Closest friends would be day guests surely.