To expect a bit of support from dh when dc and I have covid?

[ChilliHealer]

My dd7 has been off school with covid this last week (its required where i live to keep them off until they get a negative test). Ds3 has been sick too, and then there's the baby who sleeps terribly. On Wednesday I started feeling ill myself. I tested and I have covid. The baby has it too, so is sleeping even worse than normal.

Dh has been working from home since Wed to get our son to preschool and back, and despite not being able to help me because he is working (legit reason imo), he has found the time to go on two long runs, meet up with builders and do a bunch of other non essential things in case he comes down with it too. He keeps saying he thinks he'll get it next, and how he has a scratchy throat. All tests are negative. Meanwhile I'm feeling dreadful and doing 100% baby care.

Aibu to expect some help and sympathy for the current sick people, instead of his faffing about "in case" he gets it?? I feel like I'm being punished for needing rest.

YANBU.

I’d expect him to fill the freezer with meals you can reheat, keep on top of housework and do any jobs relating to any events that are coming up in the next month eg buy cards and presents for upcoming birthdays. Also stock up on basics such as nappies and other pantry items.

He seems to be assuming that you will be back to normal by the time he gets sick (if he even does) which may not be right.

Fortunately when he gets it, he will do all the childcare for three children (except school runs) because that's what's required when you have covid. Right? RIGHT?

Course he won't.

I think it appears so automatic for me to be with the baby, and care for her just happens as a third child, and nappy changes and feeds just go on in the background. But it is exhausting when I'm feeling so sick.

Can you imagine if I lumped the kids with him while he tried to spend the day in bed.

Have you spoken to him and told him you are pissed off at his lack of ability to look after others?

If you are in the middle of building a house I get meeting with builders as delays in decisions can cost a fortune, but it doesn’t read that it’s likely to be the case and rest sounds like he is being useless.

I would clearly state what you want him to do. You shouldn’t have to but you will be less annoyed at spelling that out that you will if he doesn’t do anything useful.

Oh and don’t enable him to be useless with the baby. He needs to be able to care for all 3 dc.