To start new job on Monday, having second thoughts

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I know IABVVVVVU. I’m due to start a new job on Monday, it is the same role as my previous job just in a new company. My mental health was really badly effected at my job, and I’ve had a few weeks off in between leaving my previous role and starting my new role and as my first day approaches I can feel all those awful feelings and thoughts resurfacing. I’m good at the job and it pays well, but it makes me ill with stress. I’ve had ulcers and stress hives all week. I’ve had a million emails from HR and my future line manager this week and each one makes my heart drop.

I don’t know what to do. I know I just need to get on with it but I feel so mentally low and raw

Have you had any therapy to help with the stress? Can you pay to see someone privately?

Try looking up EFT techniques and thought blocking.

Can you plan to spend the next 3 days doing things that nourish and relax you, and plan in a walk or some other exercise/relaxation each day next week?

You only need to take 1 day at a time. Note down the things you want to find out in the first week.

Remind yourself that you are good at your job. You can do this. Lots will feel new and you will be learning every day.

Sorry you feeling this way. Sometimes things are never as bad as you think. Anxiety is great for making everything seem worse. Maybe if you were able to give it a go, you might enjoy it more than your last job? Being the new person can be a bit unsettling, but those feelings don't usually last that long. However, only you know how your MH is - can you speak with your GP about how you feel?

I'd look at whether these are the normal nerves we all get when starting somewhere new- or if its much, much more? I'd worry that if you put a start date off, the anxiety will get worse, you'll delay starting again and you will never actually go in. Do you have a counsellor/therapist you see?

Is the issue the previous company or what you do for a living?

I felt like this starting the job I'm doing now. I had a year off as well due to my mental health. What helped me was I just took it day by day only thinking (worrying) about the day in front of me. I said to myself I'd asses how I felt in 4 weeks and could always leave but I may as well start. I'm 6 weeks in now and really happy and I never ever expected it! So my advice would be just take the day in front of you, 80 percent of the success will be just showing up you can do that. It's a bit of a survival mode but before you know it it becomes normal and thank god the anxious heart drop feelings left.

I think it’s the job. It’s an office based job, involves international travelling and client meetings. I get such a sense of dread from it all. I’m intelligent so can do their job but really struggle with the social part of it all. I find it all so overwhelming. I’m pretty sure that I’m autistic.

Take the job and start looking for another- something that doesn’t involve the social side

I feel like I'm in denial, too. My work laptop has arrived and I can't bring myself to open it, I have emails from HR I need to reply to and it's like I'm avoiding it all. I feel so burnt out from life