'stretch marks from Pizza'

[labamba007]

My little boy saw the stretch marks on my belly this morning, he asked what they were and I told him that when I was pregnant with him my belly stretched and I got these lines.

I later saw my parents and retold the story because it was sweet, and my dad said 'or they're from Pizza more like.'

They're actually not. I didn't have them before I was pregnant and got them during pregnancy (not that, that's the point).

But also every time my dad sees me he also says 'oh you look tired' before we've even said hello. Which I always think is code for you look like shit 😂

These comments bother me. I have struggled to lose the baby weight, so feeling a bit self conscious and don't know if I'm being over sensitive to feel hurt by comments?

I'd be telling him to keep his comments about my appearance to himself.

Ah the famous dad humour. i.e. rudeness and put downs.

He's an insensitive clown. Don't let him get away with it or you'll be putting up with it forever.

I would have said that's incredibly rude and inaccurate then stared at him. Putdowns aren't funny. Our bodies have done the most incredible thing and some people just have to devalue it because they feel small.

I would have just said, "Why, is that where yours came from?!" and gone about my day.

Bang out of order. Is he always like this? If my Dad said to me I look tired it’s because he’s concerned “are you tired love?”. He has NEVER negatively commented on my appearance but will say if I look nice/smart/whatever.

That sounds v hurtful.

That's his sense of humour. You need to have some comebacks

Or he could stop being a twat.

I’m going to guess you didn’t have a jokey back and forth relationship when you were younger so it’s inappropriate for him to start it now. He might be just trying to make your kid laugh than upset you though so I’d have a word.

Prick

He probably thinks he’s being funny and not causing hurt. If I were you I’d say something to him to let him know the comments do actually upset you. annoyingly quite a few of the older men in our family have this sort of take the piss jokey attitude….often it’s very thoughtless but they seem to think it’s just funny.

My brother was a bit like this. Comments on my red face, my weight etc. Now I just comment on his hair line and he can’t take it, so noticed he doesn’t say anything to me anymore. Not that I see him often.

If he then continues I’d be snapping back and telling him where to shove it.

Thank you so much everyone. Never had that jokey, take the piss kind of relationship. This has come after my weight gain, which makes me think it's more about that than a crap sense of humour. I'll talk to him.

Thanks again, I was second guessing myself there!

Ah the famous dad humour. i.e. rudeness and put downs

Yep I recognise this too!

It didn't stop till I told him unless he has something nice to comment about how I look, then don't.