I’m looking for opinions on whether or not I am being squeamish and unreasonable in regards to a relatives behaviour around her dogs, food, plates and her guests.
Relative has five small dogs and we first ate at her house around a year ago, it became apparent that any meal cooked for humans was to be shared with the dogs.. they were actually served first on their own plates before us Hah! I thought this was quite odd and a bit rude but each to their own. At the end of the evening I wanted to help clean up but she said it’s not a concern it will all go in the dishwasher.. which it did. So in went our plates, dogs plates, extra dog bowls for ‘normal dog food’ and everything else in between.
A couple of days later we returned for some more family time and the same routine occurred.. however, this relative does not have matching plate sets.. they are all vintage I think and no two is alike. I found myself eating off one of the plates that I had watched one of her dogs slobbering and chowing down on the other day. It turned my stomach, even though I knew it had been through the dishwasher, I just couldn’t enjoy my meal. So after a few weeks of watching the merry go round of plates and food being served to me and my children and the dogs.. we haven’t eaten there for months.
To the current issue, the relative now runs her own cafe with homemade food.. she is excited about this and wants us to go there to try out all the dishes she has created. I will not go there to eat and she’s beginning to get a bit annoyed. So, AIBU and the dishwasher takes care of everything anyway.. or is it grim? And I suppose the next point is.. how do you reckon paying customers would feel about this?