Am I being overly sensitive or is this not helpful.

[Nevergoingtowin]

I have Adeno, causes me debilitating monthly pain. I've been hospitalised frequently due to pain and bleeding. I take very strong opiates which dull but don't remove it. It's very hard going during my period - sometimes I can hardly stand. Mostly it completely wipes me out for days.
This month it has been bad, constant pain, high level of pain relief consumption and getting in and out of the bath through the night. To try get some relief from the spasms Whilst trying to manage working FT.
After a particularly rough night I was feeling pretty cranky, DH just shouting from bed if he heard me up - you ok? No offer of help or anything
Got a text from him this morning around 8 (he'd just woken up), hadn't slept well because I'd been restless. I was already at work, looking grey with pain. Text was - you ok? I replied no, feel like shit. His response, at least your through the worst of it...
AIBU to think that's a completely thoughtless thing to say, there is no worst - I'm no where near through it. This is a monthly occurrence. I'm facing a hysterectomy or a lifetime of pain.
There is no good outcome.
I actually cannot respond because I will say something I will regret.
AIBU to look for a little sympathy? Or am I just being particularly cranky.

Sorry to hear of your condition OP- sounds horrific!!!
In my honest opinion I think the thought was there in asking if you were ok- it sounds like he doesn't know what to say but isn't intentionally being insensitive.

I think that the good intention was there, it was just a little clumsy. Hope you're able to find some relief.

That sounds very difficult for you. Maybe both things are true, maybe you are feelin a bit sensitive, which would be understandable, and maybe what he said wasn't particularly helpful. Can you think of something he could have said that would have been "right"?

At least... doesn't convey much empathy, but I think it tends to come from a place of looking on the bright side, and not knowing what else to say rather than a place of malice. He probably feels a bit helpless, and stuck for what to say when you're realy struggling.

Complete appreciate that I was probably being hugely over sensitive.
But it's just relentless and I just wanted someone to wallow in the agony of it, not try to see the bright side 🫤

That’s awful OP, I’m sorry you are suffering. I had Ashermanns and was in Fall on the floor pain for around 20 days a month and my ex husband couldn’t have cared less.
Are you on the waiting list for a hysterectomy at least?

For what it’s worth, I don’t think he intended to be rubbish. He probably struggle to know what to say.
My now husband is ill more often than not and I struggle with it.

I can have it done privately pretty quickly, I'm just not mentally there yet. Not coping here tho either, so I'm in some kinda hellish limbo