Organ donation

35 replies

Maggie178 · 08/06/2023 05:57

If your adult child needed a kidney transplant would you volunteer to be a live donor?

YANBU - yes I would do anything for my child
YABU - no

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snitzelvoncrumb · 08/06/2023 07:59

I would for my kids, and possibly dh. Any other family members I would go to the appointment to see if I’m a match and ask for my results to be not a match. Saves the fallout.

GoodChat · 08/06/2023 07:59

VerticalSausages · 08/06/2023 07:24

yes yes respect the person’s autonomy and all that, but I would certainly judge a mother who refused without a clear reason.

What if they just didn't offer?

NoPicklesplease · 08/06/2023 08:21

This was a desperate housewives story line

turned out the mum had cancer and didn’t want her daughter to know

PurpleChrayne · 08/06/2023 08:26

Of course. No question.

loislovesstewie · 08/06/2023 08:27

I would for a close family member, I'm also happy to donate anything post mortem. I've had a donor card since the age of 17 as my mother died of kidney failure, it made me aware of the importance of organ donation.

Scienceadvisory · 08/06/2023 08:31

I wouldn't judge if someone didn't offer. There are a lot of risks for the person donating and there is no guarantee of success. A former colleague donated a kidney to her daughter but the kidney was rejected. Her daughter went back on dialysis and she now only has one kidney.

CoconutDrunk · 08/06/2023 21:55

If it was my child (however old at the time) or one of my siblings a thousand times yes. Anyone else…. Probably not.

I actually know someone who has done this for a friend. They said the recovery was so awful if they went back in time knowing what they do now they wouldn’t do it

MissTrip82 · 09/06/2023 01:41

Nobody knows until they’re in that situation.

I’ve cared for a living kidney donor who died as a result of operative complications. I don’t know how the recipient has coped with that.

Toddlerteaplease · 09/06/2023 02:29

Surely the way to get round bay bad feeling. (Not that there should be any in the first place) Is to have the first few tests and the transplant team say that you aren't a suitable match.

IAmAnIdiot123 · 09/06/2023 02:49

VerticalSausages · 08/06/2023 07:24

yes yes respect the person’s autonomy and all that, but I would certainly judge a mother who refused without a clear reason.

But why would you expect to be told the reason as a random family member? It could be part of a larger medical issue that she doesn't want all and sundry knowing about.

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