AIBU- sharing the workload

[Cici86]

My OH and I have two children 10,11, we both work full time but I am in education so can do some work from home in the evening.

Saturday he goes out to saying he’s going to watch football at 1 rolls in at 10pm. The next day is hung over does nothing all day. He had a condition which is worsened by alcohol tiredness etc. I ask him to do a job which he is then unable to do because of his illness, I spend the last day of half term ferrying the kids to a party getting everything ready for school whilst he naps and sits on the sofa.

We have had a disagreement on if his behaviour is unreasonable, I do all of the childcare stuff, which is fine as he is unable to pick up or drop off, but then as soon as he’s home from work (5.30) and I have made dinner, made lunches, done a load of washing, sorted kids etc he eats dinner falls asleep on the sofa and will wake up once their in bed. I am frustrated that I do 90% of the jobs or have to ask him to do something, the only thing he does is put the bin out, unload the dishwasher each morning, I look after the house, worry about finance- sort insurance, mortgage, know when music lessons are/ trips/ organise paying for childcare.

I’ve raised this before and he just never changes. I’m not sure if I’m being unreasonable that him having a night out should have an impact on us/ specifically me?.

I have made dinner, made lunches, done a load of washing, sorted kids etc he eats dinner falls asleep on the sofa and will wake up once their in bed.

I just don’t understand why you’ve been doing this for 11 years?
Why do you let him sleep on the sofa while you run around doing everything?

I don't think you're BU - you say I do 90% of the jobs or have to ask him to do something' There are two adults here and it's not up to one of them to tell/ask the other what to do.
OP, speak to him and tell him exactly as you've written.

If he changes his behaviour,that's great - he's listened to you and taken on board what you're upset about.
If he doesn't change his behaviour, then only you can decide if you want to put up with it.
But, no, you are not the unreasonabe one here

AIBU to say my OHs night out shouldnt impact on me?

we have two primary age kids and both work full time, leave at 7.30 and me and the kids home between 4-6, OH always home at 5.15. I can do some work in the evenings if I’ve got stuff left to do so have always worked around the kids. I get home do dinner, lunches, washing. OH get home eats dinner naps on the sofa until the kids have been sorted. I don’t feel like it’s 50/50.

Saturday OH went to watch football at 1 and rolled in at 10pm hung over next day, does nothing at all, he has a condition which is worsened by alcohol, stress, tiredness. I spend the last day of half term running the kids to a party sorting everything for school, I ask him to do a job and he can’t because of his condition.

we have an argument because I’m fed up of his choices impacting on me. I end up doing even more because he chose to go out, I feel like I compromise with everything, look after the kids, money, majority of house chores etc. he knows alcohol does this to him but not only do I have to do everything Saturday afternoon, but Sunday as well!

I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or whether this is the last straw in feeling like I do too much anyway!

oh no I’ve posted twice 🙄