So….My husband is from Durham, I’m from Manchester. He moved from Durham at 18, 36 years ago to start university. I’ve lived in Manchester my whole life except for a short period of five years after we were married to live in Newcastle due to his work. During that time, I had two daughters very close together, got PND so we sold our house in Newcastle and moved to Manchester. That was in 2005 and we’ve lived in the same house since then. I absolutely love it. I’m close to my mum (lost my dad 3 years ago), sister and all my friends. I love my house, Road, area etc. However, my husband has not liked it at all and constantly slags it off.
In 2013 we had another daughter.
In 2018, to help him spend some time in the North East, we bought a little holiday home in the NE by the coast. It’s lovely and we spent every other weekend there and also school holidays.
Two eldest girls have now left and at Uni. After months and months of nagging, I agreed to give living in our little holiday home a six month trial so we literally upped and moved during the night and managed to get our youngest into a local school. I was gutted to leave Manchester. We’re lucky in that we’ve kept on our home in Manchester so I’ve been going back with my youngest to visit everyone every fortnight. It absolutely breaks our hearts every Sunday afternoon when we have to leave to come back. After the six months, I said that I wanted to go back to Manchester, my husband was massively disappointed and asked me if I’d stay until the end of the school year next month. My husband has basically said to me that he’d do everything in his power to keep me here. He’d buy me and our big girls a little pad (they still have their friends there) so we can stay there when we like, he’d basically give me everything I want. He has his football team up here, squash, mother etc but now I have nothing. I’m lonely and need my friends and family. I’ve tried making friends but it gets harder and harder as you get older. I really want to go back home. The older girls both think it’s dads time now but my youngest also wants to go back. My husband is a loner and enjoys his own company so doesn’t need friends. I’ve got to write him a pros/cons list but I don’t know where to start. Is it his time? Am I being unreasonable? Will I get used to being away from Manchester? Don’t get me wrong, of course I won’t ask him for materialistic things in order for me to stay, I’m not like that. Id really love your opinions. Thanks for reading.