Been split 10 years and he pays no maintenance and never has - CMS says he doesn't earn enough. Two kids aged 16 & 14 - expensive. I'm a teacher and earn quite well but obviously not loads. He inherited at least £200k from his dad 2 years ago and spent the vast majority on a house but does seem to have a bit more money available since then. None ever comes the dc's way though. He has them every Thursday night and every other Fri - Sun. He takes two term-time two week holidays per year(always has - has friends abroad) and often cancels the Saturday night with the dc as he has gigs.
This is his week for having them Thurs-Sun but he told me last week he'd only have them til Sat am as he has a gig. Then today he messaged asking if it's ok if he doesn't have them at all this week as Friday would have been his dad's birthday and he is having a family get together in his dad's town - about an hour away. Doesn't want to have dc on Thursday as it will be too much of a rush (he doesn't drive) and he has loads of marking to do - wfh doing online marking/teaching. Not a permanent role but obviously has loads now and CMS none the wiser.
I'm pissed off. I shop with the plan of dc not being here Thursday as he never cancels that one (it's not the weekend). Now I need to get more food in - it's the logistics of it more than the money. Why is it my problem that he's having a get together and has marking on? I'm a bloody teacher - I always have fucking marking to do but I still manage to have the dc the vast majority of the time. And if he has lots of marking, why can't he chuck some money my way for the dc?
I want to text him back - Ok but please can you transfer me £20 for the food I had budgeted and planned for the dc to have with you? I also have marking/planning to do as always and now will need to do a midweek top-up, which is a bit of a pain to say the least. Presumably you knew about the get together last week so I'd appreciate being asked in advance about this type of thing in the future.
AIBU?