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To have irrational jealousy over friend having/making other friends?

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Wellwellwellwhatsallthisthen · 07/06/2023 18:32

Posting for traffic as I am fully aware that I am being absolutely unreasonable.

I am 40 years old, married, have around 5 very close friends, whom I see separately.

One of these friends, I have known since school. We have always kept regular contact, although much of her twenties/thirties was spent travelling, so her visits home would be sporadic and sometimes last-minute.

My issue is, I am irrationally jealous of her having other close friends, even though I have other close friends! She recently reached out to someone else she was friends with at school, who she hasn't seen for around 10 years, and I felt a childish jealously of 'what if she finds her more fun/prefers her to me and I get pushed out?''. She even invited me out with them, so it's not like she's not trying to include me.

Does anyone else feel anything like this? I wonder if, because I've known her since teenage times, she can evoke these teenage feelings?

OP posts:
Weal · 07/06/2023 19:43

I guess you just really like her. I think probably, If people were honest, lots of people feel this way.

You're aware of your feelings and aware they aren’t really logical, so I think that’s good. Many people don’t have an ability to reflect on their feelings in that way. Just go with it and I’m sure it will pass.

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