bored

[Flute56]

I went out with a friend tonight but was bored. We basically have nothing in common. We have nothing much to talk about and for a lot of the time we just sat in silence and I thought gosh what do I say now. We did not have fun, we did not laugh and my friend spent a lot of the time looking on her phone texting. She said lets meet againn soon. I said oh I will let you know as I do get quite busy.

I just cannot do this anymore. I came home thinking I did not really enjoy the evening. Conversation was forced and it was like I had to keep asking questions and did not really get much back

What are you asking?

And your question is?

Ok…. And…..?

my question is how to make things more exciting with the said person. If it was a boyfriend then I would say we have grown apart and I would move on

Hi Flute. I hope you've got over the throat virus you had.

Is this the same friend you posted about before? The one who took you out for a meal on your birthday?

Use chatgpt to suggest twenty provocative conversation topics and bring a twenty sided dungeons and drags dice

no it is not the same person.

Omg I actually want to try this 🤣😂🤣

You don't have to spend time with this person.

I know

Then that's your answer. 🤷‍♀️

Just accept that friendships grow apart, I've lived in my current town for over twelve years, friendships start, evolve and sometimes just fizzle out. Sorting through some photos the other day I found a great picture of me with some friends I met through a particular hobby .. we all looked really happy and I remember we had a great time ... but a number of us drifted away from the hobby so we don't have so much in common and no longer meet up socially. Because we all live in a smallish town we do bump into each other and say 'hello' and maybe have a very quick chat but it's almost an unspoken 'rule' that we wouldn't agree to meet up for an evening like we used to.
I've gone on to meet other friends and I am sure so have the others.

Friends grow apart, it’s sometimes sad but inevitable. It’s best just to acknowledge this and move on.

yes

I can tell why the conversation was boring - this thread was hard work to read and it's only small!

Do an activity if you want to remain friends l.

So do you want to stay friends with her?
Or just call it a day?

If you want to keep the friendship stop doing nights out and start visiting places together, or do an activity. Take it in turns to pick somewhere that looks interesting.

It seems like a good idea to plan to go out to an activity, or a museum, or maybe a film?

Learn the art of asking open questions?

I'd absolutely let the friendship go. Life is too short to struggle through surely.

you are right. I get nothing out of it and I would be better off being at home watching a film than going out with someone and having a boring evening

You are meeting up and sitting having a drink together , honestly that’s pretty boring for most people ,
so do something else , a walk , a museum , a sport , a film , a lesson of some sort something you can talk about where a conversation can develop with the activity you are sharing
a conversation needs effort from both sides and stimulus to give it momentum

I think you do one of two things.

First, you accept this friendship has run its course. Don’t suggest another meet up and if she contacts you about one, be unavailable.

Second, if you don’t want to give up on the friendship, do something different next time you meet - an activity, a gig, comedy club, anything that doesn’t involve just sitting there staring at each other over a drink.

i think I will go with the first one and accept that it has run its course. Even when we went out last time i thought we were going for dinner and she said she did not want to eat but would have a coffee and watch me eat.

Bit strange but still no hard feelings

Watch you eat ???
No thank you
It's run it's course