Name changed. Possibly also expecting a battering... For relevance and to avoid drop feeding I am a single parent, just me and DS. I do work but am fairly low income.
DS has worked at a place we will call X for the last three years alongside education. The job is related to his education and it is in the work he wants to do as a career. He is very well liked amongst clients.
He does not have any sort of contract so does not get holiday pay, sick pay or anything similar. He works one set evening per week unless they are closed (when he does not get paid at all) and then he works as and when they need him. For example one week he could only work 2 hours and then the next he could be doing 20 hours depending on if they need him.
This is where the issue is.
From the start DS has repeatedly been told that once he finished education they would be looking at him working a proper contract of a decent amount of hours and he was thrilled with that as it is what he wants to do but It has become clear that this is probably not the case. In the last year or so they have taken other full time staff on and it has become clear that they most likely no longer have the hours or the money to give him for any sort of contract.
The consensus seems to be that they thought he would continue working either the two to four hours a week when needed, have no wage on the weeks they do not need him but would still make himself available during their busy period to work more hours before going back to the two to four hours. This is never set days or hours and is always last minute notice so even if he were to find a different job alongside it would be near impossible to negotiate hours to tie in for both.
AIBU to think this is a waste of time? DS is 21 so can do his own thing obviously but while the work has been great for covering his extra costs and spends during education it seems completely unsustainable in regards to him ever having the money to contribute to the household or even make his own way in life in the future.
AIBU and selfish to not want the financial burden of maintaining the household financially entirely alone for years to come now ds is an adult?