To enjoy making my husband’s sandwiches?

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I actually enjoy making DH’s packed lunch for work. I don’t know why really. Maybe it’s knowing that he’s going to enjoy his lunch. Or that he’s got something to remind him of me. It makes me feel good. Is it a maternal instinct?

I hope you're not 'mothering'. I'm guessing you haven't been married long and don't have children yet?

It's a caring activity so no doubt draws on a similar thought process as maternal care but thankfully your husband hopefully won't expire if you don't make his lunch. Hope he doesn't take it for granted.

🤮😂

I’m clearly not either maternal nor wifely because I loathe making DS’s school lunches and not only have I never made DH a packed lunch, I don’t do any at all of the cooking…

I get what you mean OP, food is often used as a sign of affection in relationships. My DH makes me a cup of coffee every morning even though he doesn’t drink it because he knows I like to start my day with one.

Ok yes. Sorry maternal wasn’t the right word !! 😫

I absolutely despise making packed lunches, it’s a miserable relentless task imo.
after 3dc who refused to have school lunches my last and youngest is going to senior school and has decided he might try out the canteen. I just know this will last one day before turning his nose up at it but at least he will be making his own lunches every day from then on! He does actually make them himself sometimes now but on some mornings when things are a bit more rushed I do them.
dh doesn’t have a hope in hell of me mothering him by making him a packed lunch too.
I do sometimes make him a cup of tea in the morning though despite me not drinking hot drinks, I boil the kettle while I’m unloading the dishwasher and making ds breakfast, it is nice to do nice things for each other but cooking/food prep is not my forte.

I think I get what you mean op. I quite like making sure dh has a nice packed lunch. He does a heck of a lot to look after and support me and I like to feel I'm reciprocating and taking care of him also.

Why would you feel maternal towards your husband?

I like making people food of any description. I like food and cooking and the creativity that comes with it-it makes me happy and is something I am generally quite good at.

Do you have kids, or I’d guess want them? Making sarnies isn’t a sign of maternal instinct I can assure you. It’s way way more complicated than that.

Does DH get the same warm feeling when he makes your lunch I wonder 🤔

Just wait until you find out he's been throwing it in the bin because he "forgot" to eat it (wanted fish and chips with his colleagues)..

Does he do nice things for you too?

Do you know he enjoys them?

we are retired now ( since march) but, up until march our morning routine was.. alarm goes of at 530. Husband gets in shower and I head downstairs to kitchen. Put the coffee on, pour a juice and a bowl of cereal waiting for milk. Get his lunch bag and cut some fruit. make a sandwich, fill a thermos with hot soup. Put some snacks in. Normally done by the time he arrives downstairs ready for work. He sat and drank a coffee and ate a breakfast , then if it was garbage day he took it out. If it had been snowing overnight (Ontario.. winters can be horrible) he would go out and use the snowblower on driveway. He would also clear my car of. If it (my car ) was low on gas, he would take it up and fill it for me. Now. We have moved to our retirement home in the carribean. I still do all the meals. BUT. we have been here for 2 months and I have not cleaned a bathroom or washed our tile floors. He does it daily. I am still in charge of the kitchen though lmao..issue is, he SUCKS at anything cooking wise. Its ok he picks up the slack in so many ways. OP we so enjoy it. however.. it is so 1950's. works for us because of mutual respect.. others I can see it being more the woman being taken for granted

Totally get this! I hate doing anything else tho haha. I think it’s because packed lunches (or at least the way I make them) are comforting - sandwiches, cheeky bag of crisps, maybe a bar or biscuit. And you know they’re going to be like ohhh yay I got a biscuit today. And they’ll think you’re amazing just for binging a jamie dodger in there. Plu packed lunches usually occur when you’ve been working hard. So they’re a reward. You are the reward provider. Maybe it’s a power thing?

also they’re quick to make. Bonus.

Do you ever make him a lasagne buttie @momager1 ? 😉 😆

A lasandwich! Absolute treat

I like making my husband food too.

And you know they’re going to be like ohhh yay I got a biscuit today. And they’ll think you’re amazing just for binging a jamie dodger in there @Devonshiregal

there are some seriously disturbed people on here. Your husband is NOT your child! How do you people have sex!?

Aww that’s a lovely thing to say, you care for him and that’s really nice. My DH makes all of our meals, brings me breakfast in bed every morning, makes my lunch (I have a disability) I really appreciate it.

See this is what I imagine my kids think when they get theirs.
A cheeky bag of crisps and excitement of getting a biscuit?

OP, you are possibly enjoying the creative element too?

For those of you baulking at making lunches or sandwiches,
may I recommend
the mesmerising Honeyjubu on YT,
South Korean lady who rises at 5.00am to make the most wonderful
packed lunches for her husband, the food quality, presentation,
colourful array of sensual delights masquerading as an everyday lunchbox.

Thanks for sharing😴

I hope he does equally nice things for you

More likely an internalisation of the idea that women are good and successful when they serve men, I would have said.

I make food for my dp, but I think it's a bit weird to actively enjoy doing it.