My parents kind of had two families, four children, then a large gap then me. They really didn’t want to parent me, didn’t want my friends at the house, (all other brothers and sisters did have friends) but I suppose by the time I was at that age they’d gone past want other children about.
no parties, not taken to the park, all been fine before and no real interest in me.
my father would take me to the pub with him, it was a very “male” pub, not sure why he did it. He used to get totally drunk. I was the “responsible” on. I was aged 13 at the time.
Well, hardly surprisingly I was groomed by one of the pub users, coming up to my 14th birthday, he convinced me to meet him and a “relationship” starred. He was twice my age, married with a child. I was a very young 14 (remembering was literally 14 + 1 day. I thought he was going to love me, give me my much craved attention and look after me. 🙄
it’s had an effect my entire life, that my parents were not acting responsibly, my father didn’t spot anything, because he was drunk. My mother should’ve not allowed me to go to a place not suitable for children (I believe I was a child?), with essentially an alcoholic. But she just wanted me out from under her feet?
YANBU - the parenting was not sufficient
YABU - you should’ve known right from wrong and not met up with the man