Single & don't have anyone to share things with

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Interested in how other single people handle not having people to share things with.

I can share big things with friends and family, e.g., new job, hobbies etc.

But what about the smaller things? The things you might text/call/tell a partner about each day, but that would overwhelm friends and family?

I don't know if other people just have less of a desire to share these things with people regularly, or if they have a better way of handling it?

I'm not sure if it's a normal downside to being single or if I need to suck it up and learn to be ok with keeping things to myself

What kind of thing do you mean — do you mean very frequent texts about minutiae like chores or work tasks? Why might it be ok for a partner/spouse but ‘overwhelming’ for a friend or family member?

I suppose I mean things I'm considering and would like to share with someone, or get advice on. Things like starting a new hobby, going to a new place etc. And everyday things might be sharing anecdotes or updates on things we've previously talked about.

Maybe my expectations are too high for a relationship but I like hearing things like this from people I care about, so it isn't a double standards thing. But I'm aware most friends/family don't want to be chatting about these things all the time.

@MaudGonneOutForChips sorry forgot to tag

If I feel like telling stuff to friends I do. If not I don't. I can't say the lack of a partner to share stuff with is something I give much thought to.

People are all different and it seemingly matters more to some than others.

I feel like that a bit sometimes. But, I have two best mates who are also single, and we have an ongoing whatsapp group, where we chat almost every day with random things about tv, food for dinner, arranging meet ups, etc.
It really helps to know that we are all there to support each other, and I suppose it's probably a substitution for everyday chat we'd have if we didn't each live alone. We probably see each other almost every week, and the chat in real life/on whatsapp continue from each other.

I’ve been very happily married for a million years and there are things I’d tell friends before my husband (and vice versa, obviously). I talk to a writer friend in enormous detail about both our current projects, another friend and I share gardening minutiae, triumphs and disasters, via WhatsApp, another friend is struggling with his teenager and offloads via text, and I emote back at him about the detail of our endless house renovations because he’s in the industry.

I feel like this but have children so its things about the children not having someone to share it with but I understand that's a different situation

I feel this way too OP - it's the social loneliness I think that's one of the hardest things to deal with - I have children and whereas before I'd always be sending him little texts about funny things they've done or just random stuff about my day or what I'm doing now there is nothing. I get teased for posting too much about the kids on the family WhatsApp so don't do that much anymore. I miss having someone to share the mundane little parts of my life with x

I’m married, but I talk/text my best friend every couple of days and we share things like that. A close friend won’t mind you doing that, as long as you reciprocate and are willing to listen when they want to ask your advice/share something. It can’t be a one-way street.

I tell her more about what I’m thinking than my DH, tbh. 😂

@MaxwellCat @isthistheendtakeabreath
I don't have children, but this is exactly how I feel. I know I can share big things with other people, but it's the feeling of sharing the mundane with someone, and knowing they care about your everyday life.

I don't expect friends to care on that level about the small details, so I don't think it's a friendship issue. Maybe it's just a normal downside to being single for people who are more chatty/like sharing those things.

I'll happily share with friends and family the good things that happen but it's life's difficulties and irritations I feel I have to keep to myself.
No-one wants to hear if my washing machine is broken or that my car is making a worrying noise - they have enough problems of their own. But it's these things I feel I need to tell others as it makes them easier to cope with and shares the mental load.
I'm much happier being single but how I'd love a life admin assistant to deal with the everyday frustrations!

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I wouldn’t assume that a close friend isn’t willing to hear about life’s minutiae, as long as you listen to their irritations too.

I texted her earlier to say that I have so much to do today that I don’t know where to start….not exactly a positive message. She responded by saying that she wishes she could clone herself, except younger and thinner. 🤣. I expect we’ll chat later and share our mutual irritations.

I wouldn’t do this with my DH, tbh.