AIBU to have feelings ten years later?

[10years]

I knew someone in a professional capacity, I suppose, for a few years. I fell hard for them. Nothing ever happened. It wouldn't have been appropriate. They didn't know about my feelings.

I haven't seen them for ten years but I still think about them often. Dream about them. Fantasise about seeing them again. Is this normal?

I thought I was in love at the time but I was younger then, I never knew them personally, only professionally, so I cant really have been in love. It's just that ten years later I still feel the same.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, as long as you recognise it's a fantasy, not the real person you are thinking about.

I'm quite partial to a fantasy about Aragorn from Lord of the Rings, and this is about the same level of realism.

Nowt wrong with a bit of escapism though.

Yanbu to have fantasies or thoughts about someone.
You might BU if you cheated on a partner to act on them, or you're in a position of trust and approach them when it would still not be appropriate...

Where you the patient/pupil/customer in this scenario or the doctor/teacher/officer etc? Would it still be inappropriate to get in contact with them? Have you a partner?

Are you aware that approaching them and seeing them in real life might well burst the fantasy bubble and you'd be left with a huge feeling of cringe?!

Oh, sure. I have a wealth of fictional characters to fantasise about. Aragon was a teen fantasy of mine. Different tastes now. Haha.

Yeah, I was a student. He's married. I'm married too now.

It's strange because I actually fear that if I did see them again and the opportunity came up, I may well cheat. Which is awful. But I'm also aware that if I did see them again, it might be completely different, as you say, cringe feeling and a bubble burst!