Sleeping in separate beds?

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For a while dh and i have slept in separate beds, nothing wrong with relationship its just i need to sleep a lot earlier, he has major problems sleeping so often tossing and turning, we find we both feel more rested and better this way. Is this odd? I wonder if others do this? Some nights I sleep in the same bed, but other nights I crash in spare. is this weird????????????

Sounds like a healthy relationship to me....so long as you come back together occasionally and also enjoy some intimate time, then go with what works for you.

My parents sleep separately because of my dad's snoring. They've been happily married for 55 years!

Completely normal. My DH snores like a bastard and is a restless sleeper. Separate bedrooms only way to cope for us.

My husband sleep walks and has sleep apnoea. We started sleeping in separate beds and haven't looked back since!! Both more rested and less grumpy during the day - we are 28 years old and I can't imagine other people our age doing this but it suits us so who cares. The only thing I miss is the sleepy cuddle at night/in the morning but the benefits definitely outweigh the negatives on this 😅

We've slept in separate rooms for six years,I can still hear DP snoring though.

DH snores and I'm a light sleeper. I sleep badly in the same bed with him. We are much happier having separate beds.

DH snores and I move a lot. Separate beds is the only way.

I love my own space at night!

Amazing thanks so far, i told one friend who said her husband would divorce her if she even suggested it...............

We sleep in separate rooms, maybe for the past 3 or so years. And for the most part I love it, I have my own "special space" with newly painted walls, a bright quilt I made & my trinkets, pictures displayed.
But when I suggest that I come back to the main bedroom for a sexy visit 😂 I'm met with a definite No, as it was me who chose to leave (our shared bedroom). Part of me hopes hes joking but I would be devastated if he really turned me away. And silly as it sounds, as we've been married 37 years, it feels quite bare & vulnerable for my husband to possibly reject me like that.
But - happy in day to day stuff. We go out occasionally, get on very well.
And I never tell anyone in RL where I sleep, just sort of pretend that here - where I am right now - is a lovely spare room. Oh well.

Makes you wonder why sharing a bed is so expected and normal for couples, when in reality its just sleep, other stuff can happen outside of the bedroom!!

DH moved into the spare room as an experiment over fifteen years ago, I don’t want him back, he doesn’t want to come back, I can still hear him through the very old solid walls, very occasionally I have to go in and give him a poke so he moves and stops snoring. We are as a previous poster said both rested and less grumpy, we had to share a room when we were away at the weekend and it could have been hell if it were not for Mummy’s little helpers, just mild enough to get me off to sleep and then not hear him.

We have slept in separate rooms for nearly 2 decades now. Been together for nearly 3 decades. It works for us!!

Separate for us , works great and if we had to share every night I think our marriage would be affected

We're in the same boat, I'm light sleeper he's heavy and noisy,snoring, frowning, moaning etc very restless too. When he wakes me I get anxiety about falling asleep, get disturbedwhen drop asleep then heart races etc waiting for the next disturbance. I go from anger to frustration so self doubt and anxiety can take me 2hrs to fall back asleep so it used to be I'd go to bed first then he'd come later n keep quiet.

Recently he's had a bad cold and we left each other awake coughing so decided to sleep on airbed separate room, got over the cold mostly returned back to room after 4wks now I'm even lighter sleeping n he's even noisier so we try at wknds to get used to it but finding we both sleep better on our own...we're both 40 something, is this normal? He says he doesnt mind but I get guilty having big bed all to myself...

We are going to do a test though to see whether he snores on his own on airbed...

Sounds heaven! DH and I ended up in a twin room on holiday by accident and it was lovely to have my own bed. I wouldn’t be so keen to sleep apart regularly but once in a while is 👌

Sounds healthy and normal to me! I share a bed with partner but on the odd occasion one of us has to be up really early, we sleep in different beds and it is bliss. I actually think to myself “this is so much better”…can spread out…wake up slowly…oh it’s great