AIBU to be a bit upset by this ?

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Please tell me if I am being over sensitive or if you too would be a bit annoyed by this. DS came downstairs this morning in a creased school shirt (it was in fact fresh out of the pack as I had only only bought it yesterday ) . DH commented on it and says “your mother should have ironed it” . Not in a jokey way. Bear in mind also I am in work this week while DH has a few days off work. I was thinking “WTF” . I went out of the room and then felt so annoyed that I went back in a bit later and said to DH that I’d prefer it if he didn’t say things like that as they feel like a dig. And if it’s meant to be light hearted then it should come across that way shouldn’t it. He totally over reacted and shouted and hit himself in the head and said it was like getting feedback at work and did I really think he would say something that was a dig to make me feel bad.
I don’t think I was overly critical and stayed calm and felt like I had a right to say something if it made me upset.
Do you let your partner know if they have upset or annoyed you ? Or how do you handle minor things like this and not stew on them?

Does he not know where the iron is? He sounds like a dick.

Yes he could have ironed it. At the same time it sounds like he’s having mental health issues.

He made a massively sexist comment in front of his son, then freaks out and hits himself over the head when you tell him not to be such a twat in future? No matter what pressure he's under at work his comment and behaviour are unacceptable. No idea what you should do next, personally I would have told him to fuck off for good and meant it. Because I'm guessing the sexist comment and massive overreaction isn't the first time and didn't come out of the blue.

Yanbu DH sounds abusive? Gaslighting you?

Thanks for all the replies . He has never done or said anything misogynistic before. Never violent at all. And not ND.
I think it must be more a sign of his mental health and / or stress of some kind. When I explained that I was simply stating that something he said had upset me, he said “what - are we supposed to say every time we feel upset about something ?” So I said yes ! So you can see he clearly bottles things up . I like to talk about things and he doesn’t. How do you communicate with a DP like that ?

The violence was to himself though, he hit himself. And yes I get that can be used as a way to manipulate but it reads in this scenario it was more he was so distressed he hit himself. The fact he also referred it back to work makes me think he’s got a signficant work problem.

why is he off work this week?

Every day sexism in front of your child, followed emotional abuse and threatening behaviour. I wouldn't be putting up with it.

I'd have told him to hit himself in the head harder then it may have knocked some common sense and manners into him.

Stop minimising this OP, you are looking for sonethimg other than him being, simply, a misogynist twat.

If you had responded with something witty back like 'I think your Fad needs practice with his ironing so best ask him 🙂', I bet he would have accused you of not being able to take a joke. To which the response is whilst smiling 'pots and kettles'. Can't stand nen like this.

I would have been really angry so no, not YANBU. I would also have tackled infront of DS as I would 100% not have tolerated that wife work bullshit.

I get stressed at work but don't deal with it by making sexist jokes and pissing off my husband.

Hope it got ironed 😩

Omg get rid asap .

Doesn’t he give you the ick? shudders