I did a lot of research into bet costs after our exotic cat cost us about £12k one year.
Yes we ended up paying about £6k on top of our insurance limit. This was at a specialist referral centre and our vets combined for an inpatient stay plus diagnostics. Not even surgery.
It's really hard. There is obviously no NHS for pets. We are so lucky having an NHS as we never have to make cost decisions about the humans in our lives (unlike say the USA). We couldn't afford it, and I felt rushed into it on an emotional rollercoaster. The cat also had an emotional support role with my daughter who was suicidal at the time. ☹️ It was so complicated.
I decided against the surgery which had a low success rate and no guarantee of improvement. It would have led to a life of treatment, medication and infirmity, possibly discomfort. Instead she rallied and we had a final year of life, watching her like a hawk for signs of deterioration.
However, the extensive research I did into vet prices showed that on average vets aren't brilliantly well paid compared to their experience and qualifications. I think on average it's about £45k.
That's not commensurate with the salaries of senior medics in the NHS. The costs are real, and the NHS keeps costs down incredibly low by being super efficient. Don't believe the newspapers.
It's heartbreaking for owners but sadly it's the harsh reality of life that we are sheltered from normally. I only realised we were under insured when something went catastrophically wrong.
I now pay a fortune for lifetime insurance of my two cats, because I'm terrified they might get ill like the last one and end up costing me that much.
Oh - and it was a lifelong condition so we had to pay the Year 2 bills in full.
The one time I did feel genuinely ripped off was an out of hours vet called "Vetnow". They charged me about a thousand pounds for one appointment, and wanted a further £3,000 for an overnight stay till the normal vets opened. The decider for me wasn't the cost, it was that I'd have to have left her to die. They were understaffed, busy, and not very caring. I decided we'd rather be with her if she died, rather than them letting her die alone in a cage.
I hope you work things out. ❤️