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To feel like I just have to get used to it....

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lonelylucy · 05/06/2023 08:54

I'm a mum of a toddler, I'm 37, I have a wonderful albeit sometimes difficult partner. I have a successful career. I'm not married, don't own a house, and am in a bit of debt..... but generally I'm ok with these and accept it's part of life. I've struggled with my mental health all my life.... depression, anxiety, low self esteem.... as a result I've always struggled to make and keep friends. I'll be honest, I do need low maintenance friends as I find it hard to fit social time into my busy schedule and I think that coupled with my bad periods of mental health has meant I seem to have lost a lot of friends. My mental health currently is better than it has ever been but it's still a struggle sometimes and I realise I have to learn to live with that and accept that a lot of people just don't/won't ever understand.
So my question is.....
Friendships that I have tried to keep but now seem like are at an end - I've tried, I've messaged, tried to arrange meet ups when I can etc.... only to be blanked, or made to feel like I don't matter, do I accept that my one or 2 friends that do stand by me are are enough and let the others go so as not to damage my MH even more?
I don't really have any family so I'm worried I'll be really lonely, but do I just need to get used to it?

OP posts:
Shoxfordian · 05/06/2023 08:59

If people don’t text you back then you’re not friends anymore - doesn’t mean you can’t make new ones though

billy1966 · 05/06/2023 08:59

Invest in the couple of relationships you have that are good.

Life is busy and when you have children, low maintenance friendships are all that work IMO.

Be open to new ones, but don't chase them.

Good luck.

rileynexttime · 05/06/2023 09:04

This ^
Good luck Flowers

Iouisa · 05/06/2023 09:56

Be open to new friendships but be honest from the outset that you are a low maintenance type of friend and have your own struggles. Don't try to chase people who are ignoring you. And hold those true friends dearly.

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