Have you ever made a promise to yourself with a piece of jewellery?

[crochetmonkey74]

Read an interesting article over the weekend about a woman who after a lot of trauma, 'committed to herself' with a piece of jewellery- she bought it to signify her ongoing commitment to herself. I like the idea and sort of fancy it for myself- but is it naff? I know it doesn't matter what others think - I quite fancy getting myself a fancy ring as a symbol of a current self improvement project I have got going on but then I keep feeling like it is ever so slightly 'cringe'

What do you guys think?

It's the kind of thing I could get sucked into thinking was a good idea. But then 4 months down the line would look back thinking 'how embarrassing that I thought it was a good idea'

So, I'd say a bit naff but if it makes you happy go for it.

You could just buy the jewellery without a reason.

who said you need a reason to buy something for yourself? If you can afford it, you don’t need permission or reason.

After my divorce I had my ring and some other sentimental bits of jewellery modeled into two badass rings (v un-wedding like) that I wear every day. They give me loads of joy, optimism and relief that I took charge of my life. I'm not the type to talk publicly about the why day to day, but it's a similar vibe?

I think this sums up how I feel about it

yeah I am quite good at buying myself stuff - but I sort of want a symbol of my commitment to myself over the next few months, so it's less about buying a pretty bit of jewellery- more a symbol each morning as I put it on that I am reaffirming that commitment

Yes, a very similar situation here!

I have an item of jewelry which I bought to symbolise positivity about a life stage I was apprehensive about. Seeing it acts as a mental prompt to refocus on the positives and channel the woman I want to be. It's also very beautiful and looking at it lifts me. I think whatever you think or do for yourself is fine if it makes you happy. Going round telling people about it would be a bit naff though.

@5128gap Going round telling people about it would be a bit naff though. Yeah, exactly. Do what you want for you, but don’t make a cringy “life story” thing.

I would 100% do it @crochetmonkey74
If it is something like remodelling your engagement & wedding ring so you now have a piece of jewellery that gives you a bit of a boost / lift each day because it represents a new start or a change in your own belief in yourself then that's a great thing!

I took on a challenging job which was made even more difficult by a fractured team which was caused by one tricky person. I realised this would be testing to me personally as its not the way i lead however I was determined not to allow this one idiot to prevent me from taking on the role which was a great opportunity for me.

I saw a necklace that has huge meaning to me personally & symbolises relisiance and determination. It was expensive & more than we usually spend on anniversaries but dh bought it for me & each day as I was getting ready for work & I would put it on, I would touch it & remember that I was strong & able & would not be bested.

5 years later I'm still there having turned the organisation around & now its thriving. Tricky guy is still there & still causes issues but he doesn't stop me & when we're in a tough spot with him I wear my necklace daily. It's a weird sort of comfort to have it & be able to touch it in meetings etc

I'm a huge fan of jewellery anyway so my advice is to get it & celebrate yourself in whatever change you're going through.

Many years ago, I went to university whilst still breastfeeding, unsupportive (read obstructive) H, I had 3 very very hard years. So at the end, my now ex H made a point in congratulating himself for going through 3 hard years and celebrated the fact. He. Did. Nothing.
I bought myself a pair of earrings, and every time I wear them it’s a reminder and a celebration of the hard work I did and what I accomplished.
When I divorced him I bought myself a VERY nice watch. For 23 years of service in the marital shitshow. I’m now retired from marriage 😂

I often buy jewellery to celebrate things, like promotions or project completion. It’s nice to celebrate yourself and to remember your achievements. I don’t go around telling people though (in person, clearly have just told quite a few on here 😁)

I think it's a lovely idea - you don't have to go about telling everyone it's meaning, you will know and that's enough.

Slightly different but I’m a lecturer and buy myself a piece of jewellery at the end of each academic year as a “reward” for surviving! Nothing especially flash/expensive really, but it feels significant. Last year my graduating class kindly gifted me a bunch of vouchers for ASOS and I used them to buy a big chunky gold necklace from Whistles. I wear it often and think of them each time.

Some nice ideas here

It would definitely only be for me - and I wouldn't be telling anyone. I fancy a big ring for my wedding finger as me committing to myself!